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August 1, 2005, 8:06 pm PDT
Setting Boundaries
Quote From: nannasamI am a 63 year old Grandmother raising 3 grandaughters. One who just graduated and is going to nursing school, and two left at home ages 15 and 16. I don't have a solution, just want to know how you handle explaining trust and priviledges and how they are connected. I seem to have a problem getting this information to register. Can anyone help me?
One thing you need to do is set those boundaries and stick with them and tell the kids that when they obey the rules and respect you as their grandmother/gaurdian then they will get more priveleges. Praise them for doing good and when they have obeyed the rules for a certain period of time, then give them an extra privelege. Like maybe their curfew is 9 pm and they follow that rule, with home work done and getting up for school with no hassle, you up their curfew to 10 pm. Of course this is just an example but kids need to know that you can be trusted as well and they need to know that if they want to be trusted then they need to earn that trust. Actions speak louder then words and maybe if they see that you are sincere and true to your word then they too will do the same. Explain to them of course that you have rules and when they show that they can obey them, the priveleges will come, choose your battles but at the same time be firm with them and stick to your guns.
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