Quote From: je1962This is my first time responding to something like this, but I have to in this case. To the woman who spoke of being abused: PLEASE seek counseling and DO NOT think this is your fault. DOMESTIC VIOLENCE HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH HOW MUCH YOU LOVE YOURSELF!!!!! I was sick when I read "Bev's" comment......"we teach people how to treat us". Domestic Violence is an illness that belongs to the ABUSER, and regardless of how much you love and respect yourself, you cannot change the abuser's illness. What starts as someone elses illness, will most definately become your illness......in the form of stress, sickness, physical abuse, etc. I KNOW......I was abused for 16 years and unfortunatey listened to people who weren't qualified. I'M NOT qualified to help you either, other than to say seek profesional help.
God Bless You and Protect You through this difficult time......notice I wrote 'through'......YOU WILL GET THROUGH THIS:)
WELL I KINDA AGREE WITH WITH BEV. I HAVE BEEN ABUSED FOR 27 YRS AND IT HAS GOTTEN ALOT BETTER FOR ME B/C I LEARNED HOW TO RESPECT MYSELF. AND NOT LET ANY ONE DISRESPECT ME. THE PYSICAL ABUSE WAS FOR ABOUT 15 YRS AND WHEN MY CHILDREN GOT BIG ENOUGH TO PROTECT ME THAT STOPPED. HOWEVER THE MENTAL IS JUST AS BAD. MY HUSBAND SAYS I HAVE CHANGED OVER THE LAST THREE OR FOUR YEARS. YESSSSS I HAVE GROWN UP! AND DEMANDED RESPECT. IT IS SO HARD TO LEAVE A SITIUATION, WHEN YOU HAVE CHILDREN, BUT ON THE OTHERHAND IT HARMS THE CHILDREN.
I WISH YOU ALL THE LUCK IN THE WORLD, BUT UNTIL YOU CAN CHANGE YOURSELF AND GET IN YOUR HEAD THAT YOU DESERVE REPECT IM AFAID THING WILL STAY THE SAME WHETHER YOU ARE WITH YOUR CURRENT SPOUSE OR THE NEXT SPOUSE.
