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I can answer that for you - because I feel like it is MOSTLY the other woman's fault.  Unless the guy IS a rapist, he didn't force anything...SHE must have been the one putting it out there!  Yeah, sure, he took the bait, but she is the one who put it out there in the first place by flirting or whatever she did to get his attention!

Don't think the cheating husband didn't get his share of the wife's anger, but if she makes a choice to stay with him, at some point she must choose to forgive HIM.  She does NOT, however, have to forgive the other woman.

I have seen way too many women putting their cute little smiles or flirts out there, in front of me! to my husband.  It's disgusting.  And men do NOT do that to me, because i'm not giving signals...

So yeah, he took vows, broke them, and if he chooses to conciously do it AGAIN after realizing how much hell he put her thru, then she should throw him out.  But it takes YEARS to get over the hate and vengeance of the other woman.