Replies to '06/20 "You Ruined My Reputation"'

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March 22, 2006, 10:26 am PST

A friendship was almost ruined, by a malicious rumour.

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What you say is true, but when we're young, when a lot of these things happen, we aren't always aware that the people who spread these hurtful lies have their own problems. When I was a kid, I fell victim to vicious rumors. I lived in an affluent area, but my family was not wealthy. I was considered an outcast early on, and paid the price at that time. I was deemed a slut 2 years before i'd even kissed a boy!!! And far worse. But I didn't know that it wasn't about me. And it affected me negatively for years and years to follow... leading to years of poor self-esteem and years of eating disorders. Adult awareness helped me to see that that negativity was not about me, but them. We need to step in with our children and help them to feel good about themselves so that they can feel better about telling someone "that's nice."

You know what?

I was the target of a malicious rumour, by someone I thought was a friend. Russell is NEVER happy, unless he causes s***, between friends. He started a rumour with my friend Michelle, telling her that I was going around, calling her a bitch & a slut. I told her, that I know of some people who'd tell her, that I'd NEVER say that about her.

Fast track, to August of 1999: Russell started his crap, again. I found out from Michelle, that Russell told her I was going around, and saying that I said about how she looked like a slut in this particular dress she wore, when a group of us went out dancing during the Easter weekend of '99. I was like, "Bull s***!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!' I confronted Russell at this bar about it, when I went up to get a drink. Then he proceeds to tell Michelle & her b/f John, that I infact said that. Needless to say, Michelle, John, and I never spoke for about 2 months. I got up enough nerve to call her, and tell her that it was not true. Michelle & John ended up leaving me at the bar, to get a taxi cab home, still believing the viscious rumour.

So, around Christmas of '99, she started to trust me, again. Everything was going good, then in January/February of 2000, I call Michelle, and find out from that, that she blocks my phone #. So, I go and call her from my parents line, upstairs. I find out from her, that Russell & her cousin Mike (who is as simple minded, as they come), that they were going around, and saying that I was calling her a whore & a slut. I then proceeded to tell her, that I NEVER called her that. She was like, "WELL, YOU DID!!!!!!!!!!!!!!" We traded words back & forth, then I said "FINE, IF THAT'S THE WAY YOU'RE GONNA BE, I DON'T WANT TO F****** TALK TO YOU, EVER AGAIN!!!!!!!!!!" That's when I hung up on her. It really hurt me, to think that she'd believe those two jackasses, over believing her friend.

Well, Michelle & I had a serious falling out over that nonsense that was so bad, we didn't speak, for nearly one year. It took about I'd say about 2 or more years, before she could trust me again. Even now, her & her b/f John know now, that Russell's nothing short of a s*** disturber. It never pays to believe rumours.

If somebody tells you, that say one of your friends is talking smack about you, go to your friend, and let them know what this individual is saying.