Replies to '06/06 "I'm Gay, OK?"'

I find it continually amazing that homosexuality is still one of the most controversial issues, being talked about more than pedophlia, and the fact that children are being sold into sex at ages 4 and up right here in our own backyards. There are so many other issues that we should be arguing about and homosexuality should not be one of them because it is between two consenting adults who are very aware of what we are doing! 

I am a lesbian and have known I was "different" since the age of 3, since I have developed memories. I didn't pinpoint what it was until I was 14 years old. The fact is, most gay people know they are gay from the age of 6 (proven fact) but it's not always being concious of being gay, it's just feeling different and out of place. Heterosexual people cannot understand what it is like to be gay, to hate yourself for it, to have to deal with it every single day. I am happy with myself and I wouldn't change being gay, but I will always always always struggle with coming out to people who continually ask me if I have a boyfriend. Imagine being a teenager. It is hard. Imagine being a gay teenager. It is 10 times harder. 

I don't understand why being gay has to come down to religion so much. Not all of us share your religion. I am a Christian but I do not follow the Bible, I believe it is a good teaching tool but I do not live my life by it. I think we are all given challenges to overcome and that includes being gay. It's not about changing it, it's about accepting who you are and ultimately being happy with yourself. The truth is, being in Canada, Christians are not as prevalent as they are in the states, especially in places like Vancouver where Christianity is the lowest percentage in North America. Christians do not rule the world. Not everyone has the same beliefs as you. I think for anyone who says it's a sin, for anyone who says God will save us, why don't you keep in mind that not all of us believe in the same God as you. 

I am happy being who I am and if I was to try to change it, it would just make me an unhappy person. So why instill that on me or anyone else? I also want to mention that I am in Canada, and gay marriage is legal here. And you know what? The world hasn't ended. In fact, the only thing that has changed is the amounts of arguments between gays and homophobes. 

I am a lesbian and I am proud of it. I am happy and I would never change it, not for God, not for Jesus, and not for anyone else. You can call me a sinner, it doesn't matter, because I don't believe in sins. For anyone who has supported a gay person, whether it to be a daughter, son, friend or anyone else, good for you. You make our lives easier. I thank you from the bottom of my heart. And good for you Dr. Phil for taking this subject on. It's about time!