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I hope what I have to say is helpful.

Ask yourself the same question: "What if a wife is loving and faithful in every way and never gets sex or intimacy from her husband? What if he has let himself go (or fill in the blank, too busy, not attentive enough, doesn't make enough money, can't cook for crap) ? These things are choices that we make on day to day basisis.  We run to "other" things when we don't know what else to do......but you are feeling invisible. Has she rejected you on all levels? Do you spend a few hours a week just hanging out and maybe laughing together? Do you enjoy a good walk once in a while (or fill in the blank to what you find enjoyable). Is it strictly sexual that she is not interrested? Has your sex life become boring or affected in some way for both of you for some reason?

It sounds like she pulled the plug (withdrawing) when she was not feeling content with you....and you pulled the plug (porn) when they didn't go well for you. It is crucial not to let big things slip by because they won't disappear. It may be easier not to confront one another but we need to be able to express ourselves emotionally, sexually and physically. 

My suggestion would be to see if the reasons for the start of the demise of your marriage are still present and if so, you can suggest talking about them. Clear the air. If you can't get a conversation out of her then she has pulled away and things probably won't ever change.  So before you walk away from this marriage figure out what happened, see what you did to bring you to this point. A lot of times we are responsible for the destruction of our lives as much as we contribute to its good ness. 

Good luck.