Quote From: bandman04I've never really thought abou posting n a message board like this but when I saw the title, I just had to put in. My wife and I have been together for 5 years now. The first two years, we were both in high school, the next two, we were out of school and the last one we've been married. The first three years we never had sex. Both of us said we wanted to wait until we felt we were definitely going to be together as long as life. Then when we were engaged, we decided to experiment, and I had an apartment away from our parents' as I was on active army duty for a year. Our sex life was great until "Angela" was coming down with morning sickness after our third month of marriage. Then it got less, but still tolerable. It picked back up again after the baby was born. Now we're 1 year and 5 months married, and a girl who's 7 months old. Angela found out a month ago she's pregnant again, and has not had sex with me in the last month. I wish I knew why, but all she will tell me is "I don't feel sexy." No matter how many times I've told her how beautiful she is, how many times I've told her all of her features that I love so much, and how much I want her; it just doesn't seem right. I am definitely not afraid to ask, but all she does is push me away and say maybe later.
I think maybe you need some birthcontrol. This poor girl is pregnant again and has only had her body to herself for 7mths! No wonder she doesn't feel sexy, she probably doesn't rememeber what it feels like to be sexy! She is probably starting to equate sex with being pregnant and doesn't want you to touch her.
Get some good birthcontrol going once this one is born and let her get her body back and her sanity. She is going to have 2 kids to look after so close in age, and is going to be exhausted and if you arn't the type to pitch in and help with the kids then you may be out of the picture for having anything to resemble a normal sexual relationship for a long time. You guys are young, and an ideal suitation would of been for you to have fun and enjoy your time together for a few years before you brought children into the mixture. Its hard enough to be married but to have a baby that keeps you up at night, to consume your thoughts, it easy for the two of you to forget and push aside why you got married in the first place. Remind her that there was a relationship first between the two of you and it still needs to be nurtured, and that means beyond just sex. That means having fun together, touching without the act of sex, holding hands, cuddling. Tell her your sorry she is pregnant so soon again, and that this will be the end of being pregnant for a while so she can get backinto her tight jeans and feel like a sexy woman again. Good luck
