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May 14, 2009, 11:44 am PDT
 Quote From: dandybe Ive been having a terrible time with my fiances ex whom he has 4 kids with, she has taken to calling our house up to 15 times a day, emailing etc. she takes him to court every 3 mths. for support, visitation etc. she has sent so many horrible emails about myself as well as his family. we have tried to get custody and more visitation but it seems that the legal system is outlined for mothers. I feel he is a wonderful father and would be a better parent for the children to live with. she lies all the time about the kids being in counseling, expenses for the kids, possible abuse by his family. It is as if she is trying to push him and his family out of the kids lives and just wants the child support money. We have so many emails showing what kind of a person she is and have caught her lies on many different occasions she has even moved the kids to a diff country for a few months but no one seems to care. what do we do? The bottom line to your situation..and Im sorry this may be a bit blunt and not what you want to hear..it does not matter what the ex says about you, family, or the dad..the courts do not see it as grounds for taking children out of the living arrangement/situation they are accustomed to. The only way the courts will ever see it necessary to give your fiance custody is to prove to the courts that the ex is neglectful, abusive to the children, or abuses substances. And until that changes, if she has primary custody, she can take the children wherever and however she wants. The good news is...the children will eventually see all of this and will want nothing to do with it and her playful games:) The more she pushes your fiance away..the truth is..she's pushing her own self away from her very own children. So what do you do??..you ask? well..the very best thing is..continue to see them and communicate with them like you are supposed to..NOT the ex..don't fall for any games..play it cool..let the children see and figure out the person she really is. They will most likely come running(so to speak) faster to your fiance than you could imagine; rather than loosing your temper and falling for the games. I know this may be especially hard in the heat of things but it will be well worth it in the end. |
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