Quote From: rosalasan
Basically. I love my boyfriend to death. He is everything iv ever wanted.
Everything is perfect except two things that are the two most important things in my life.
Marriage and childeren. I havent experience either. But he had a son at a young age and hasnt seen him for a while. he has also been engaged once. These two things are ruining everything because I have waited to have kids and get married and I wanted to experience that with someone who hasnt either.
This is depressing me so bad, I dont know what to do. I am 22 and he is 24. I am almost done with college. I am thrown off track because I never thought the man of my dreams would come with the two biggest problems to me. theres always a catch! PLEASE I need advice DESPERATELY!!!
I'm going to give you advice that you won't want to hear but here it is anyway. Slow down. You are only 22 years old and almost done with college. Marriage and children are huge responsibilities and you will succeed a whole lot better if you get your ducks in a row first. First, get a career. You've spent a whole lot of time getting an education so put it to use first. Start putting money away when you get a job. Make a little, save a little, spend a little.
Anotherwords plan for your future wisely. Most couples fight over lack of money, secure a good paying job before having children. It just makes life so much easier.
I'm a little confused with your post. You started dating him knowing he had a son and was previously engaged. Why is this ruining everything? Does he not want to get married one day and have children? Are you upset because he already has a child? Cause you knew that already.... One thing that I'd be real concerned about if you plan on marrying this guy is why doesn't he see his child?
Just seems that you are jumping the gun and not thinking clearly. You are so young and have so many years ahead of you to plan for a wedding and children. What's the rush???
