Quote From: happy2000awayI wish I could tell this poor woman to read the book "Malignant self Love" Its about Narcissism, and Dr. Phil sorta hit on it in the show, but he didn't tell her that there is no cure, and he is the same sorry sap he is and will be forever. I never realized until lately what NPD (Narcissistic Personality Disorder) which stems from childhood, which it sounds like he had. I am not a trained psychologist but I lived with one for 23 years and I know the signs. I wish Dr. Phil would learn more about this and the effect it has on the spouce (Not that men are the only ones with NPD) but he need a whole show on this to educate the public on this disorder. The effects this has on women (and or men) and how it lowers them to the same catagory this woman felt. It put tears in my eyes and I wish I had the chance to be there to tell her and DR. Phil that she does need help, but she should run away and take her children as far away from him as she can so her children don't learn to treat someone the same way he did. Its not fair to them, and she is hurting her children by not putting them through this abuse. No amount of weight or no Miss America body will ever change this "so called man" Her only hope is to run and run fast.
Sorry to be blunt, but its the truth.
Way beyond Naraccistic Personality Disorder (NPD), is a Bully Husband.
It is someone who is Verbally Abusive and all Physical Abuse is preceeded by Verbal Abuse.
The Lesson for Karen:
There are Basic Rights in Relationships.
1) Right to goodwill from the other
2) Right to emotional support (you have none from this jerk)
3) Right to be heard by another and be response to with courtesy
4) The right to live free of criticisms and judgements (over your weight or implied criticism of see that woman she could be your mother).
5) The right to be called by NO NAME that devalues you!
6) The right to be respected NOT ORDERED.
Karen, you recognize the abuse, whether it be emotional, physical or any other type and it shocks you to your core. This man needs to recognize what ABUSE means - he doesn't.
