Replies to '07/16 Bully Husband'

I agree!  It is all about them and never about you.  They will lie, curse you, blame you, verbally abuse you, until you get your family and friends to believe you and not him.  When I got proof that he was cheating on me with two 25 year olds and thinking that he could have his cake and eat it too, I unraveled our joint accounts, made him sign up for his own credit cards, redid the banking so his name was first on the one joint account we had to have, and planned my escape.  As soon as he was working full time again, I found an apartment, got a paralegal to file for divorce the day I moved out and moved while he was at work.  I took the week off and hid and did not give him the phone number, the address or anyway to find me after he was served.  He tried to stop the divorce for a year and 1/2 by stalling and refusing to settle.  It was only after his mom contacted my sister-in-law ,who my ex unwittingly confessed his affairs to, and she told her the true to why I left and filed.  I had a lot of evidence and people who would testify on my behalf as to his behavior prior to my leaving, that he would have lost everything.  His mom and brother-in-law the lawyer convinced him to settle for what I wanted and leave it at that.  He tried to harass me after the settlement by claiming I was holding up the divorce after he stalled it for a year and 1/2.  The final papers were sent in November 2002 and I celebrated my freedom!  Never again will I get involved with men like this.  I haven't dated since and the men I have met only want a nurse and a purse!  Had both and don't want again!