Quote From: mogill Hi ,
I'm new to this board and I feel relieved that I have come across this message board.I discovered that my husband was watching porn on the computer whilst I was at work.The history is always deleted and he's smart enough not to download stuff off the internet.A friend of his fixes computers and takes stuff off other people's hardrives,copies it and gives it out to friends.So,in effect I don't know how often he watches it.I was devastated when coming across it at first as my husband iin our early married life ( 30+ yrs ago) nititally started with just reading Playboy ,then progressed to hardcore porn and going to lunch( sometimes daily ) at the local strip club .He always appeared happy and cheerful as a young man but has progressively .got angrier and more difficult to live with over the years,is now having impotency issues and seems obsessed by youth and beauty.I am in my late 50's and my husband early 60's.I'd rather hoped we would have reached the point in life where we could face old age ,visit family,enjoy our grandson and have more time to develop interests and hobbies .Is this behaviour common as one gets older?I take good care of myself am not overweight .I really don't know how to deal with this as my husband gets angry if I raise the subject and says that all men watch porn and go to strip bars ,so get over it.He refuses stop his behaviour or go to a councillor despite being aware how much it is upsetting me.
The problem has been compounded by my developing a chronic disease which may mean I have to undergo a liver transplant in the future.I really need the support of a mature partner during this stressful time and am not sure if I should just shrug the problem off or just get on with the more major problems in my life.I really would appreciate any advice from someone who has gone through this.
Hello! Welcome to the forums!
First of all, I'm sorry you're having troubles with your husband right now, and I really hope you won't have to go through a liver transplant operation, that's just more stress I'm sure you don't want or need right now.
However, since you and your husband are having problems with porn usage that is hurting your relationship, you might want to go to the other thread, "How Porn Has Hurt Our Relationship" (The link to it is at the top of the page) because that one is aimed more for people like you who are having this kind of trouble. This one is more for people who just want to talk about pornography in general. Mainly for people who don't hate it, but aren't addicted to it and such.
I'm sure you would be able to find more people with similar issues as you to help you and give you advice.
