Replies to 'Balancing Marriage and Family'
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July 31, 2008, 9:35 am PDT
 Quote From: pamela3 My Husband and I have been married for 27 yrs, have 3 kids two on their own (boys) one girl 16yrs old. I very frustrated and tired of my husbands negativity. I own my own hair business and he wants no part of it. From helping with website design to making appointments to worry. He is a engineer and doesn't like his job or so I think he may? He is always on the web looking at stocks. Swears everyother word. watches only facted based programs...news, history channel, science channel, sports, weather. He complains about my dog he hates all the time. Blames me for everything, if argueing it is me my fault, and yes fault has to be mine and blamed on someone at all times.
So tonight..I came home he was standing by the couch and watching..a global warming program and gas price, oil what ever..depressing to me and so I went and got my tennis shoes and socks changed my attire and came out of bedroom and looked at t.v. and sighed by the dog was trying to get my tennis shoes because he knows i walk him so was excited and my husband states very loudly it the t.v. thats why she sighed and so off it goes and no more t.v. cancel it all we can read play games what ever.
Two hours later a neighbor comes over and speaks to my husband who at time was watching t.v. in bedroom. Neighbor states he hopes he wasn't interfering and my husband replys no I was kick off the big t.v. so I have to watch the small one. I rolled my eyes at neighbor and he said I don't believe that.
My husband always puts me down in front of the kids or anyone that is around or has to point out my imperfections what is up with that?
I believe, he always has to do this to feel better but he really makes himself look flawed not me. I'm still hurt and tired of this negativity..I'm going nuts..this has been going on for 4yrs and getting worse. he will not get help I have had him to the doctors, and they give him meds and he doesn't believe it works. but he never takes them.
help!! Hi, I just recently joined this site, I know what it's like to live with someone who is always negative. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 4 years due to get married in June but I am not sure the way things have been going. My boyfriend will come home from work and he always has to make little sarcasm negative remarks that put me down. I tell him stop putting me down and he smiles and says I'm just fooling around. I've been staying home caring for our 3 month old and It's been hard on our relationship because I complain that we don't do anything together. He works 6 days a week, the night that he has off he goes to small race tracks around us usually with a guy that he works with. Then on Sunday all he wants to do is lay around the house and relax before he has to start his 6 days work week all over again. Everyother weekend he has his 5 year old daughter that lately it seems like I take care of more than him. Some sat, he'll take her to the track with him or he'll leave her home with me,. He tell me that tomorrow We'll all go do something and it will be a family day, Sunday comes around and again he says I don't feel like going anywhere today, the only thing he wants to do with his family is stay inthe house and watch racing. We were a couple that before I was pregnant we were out doing things all the time, visiting with friends, fourwheeling, camping we always did things together. Now I am in the house 24/7 while he works 6 days a week, I spend my days caring for our son, cleaning the house, cooking dinner, he doesn't even help me out at night when he gets home from work. And I am not aloud to complain about not spending anytime together because if I do, I just get lectured on how much he does for this family and the one and 1/2 days that he has off he should be able to do what he wants. he has no consideration lately for how I feel and what I want to do. he just says he doesn't care he's going to do what he wants to. How do you fix a relationship that is so one sided. I've tried taking advice from dr.phils relationship advice, but I really just want to talk to someone, who can relate, everytime we have an argument it's my fault I'm the one wtih the problems, Everything is directed toward me, it's like I am suppose to be the rock of this family and I can't be 100% of the time, I can't lean on him when I am having a bad day, I can't cry on his shoulder, I can't talk because talking to me is argueing in his eyes.
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