Quote From: trinagray04My husband and i been married for 4 years and i say 2 years into the marriage he brings up that he wants to swing, not to mention that he said he been into it since high school. How i do handle this? I am not into swinging and not sure what it really is, i heard that it is swaping partners, any ways ai dont want anything to do with it and i think i made a mistake of going to parties of that enviroment with him, and i only went cause it is something he enjoys. I regret even going, now we argu when a party comes up and i dont want to go. So i feel like i am trapped in a marriage and we have 2 young kids that are involved. Someone please help me!!!!
Just say NO to swinging...I tried it, its not a good thing for a relationship with trouble! The "responsible" swinging websites will be the first to tell you that if a relationship is in jeopardy, it will kill it!
I tried to be open minded when my boyfriend told me about it, his fantasies and his previous involvement with it. I really wanted to be open minded, but what I saw within the community has absolutely confirmed that it is NOT a good idea.
This is a community that has some really great people, is supportive of privacy and for the most part, your average next door neighbors. But underneath, the truth is that there are much more "hot" women than men. There is a hunter/hunted atmosphere...being fresh meat on the swingers market is a fleeting status. The odds of finding a couple that you both find appealing is RARE! leaving the other partner (go back to previous statement....more hot women than men) inevitably "taking one" for the team. There are weird, hurt feelings from other couples that question why you may be spending so much time with another couple. There are predatory singles (men and women) who have no problem making a game of coming between you and your spouse.
Its just bad...don't do it...find other ways to add "spice" to your sex life! Preferably ways that keep your partnership a two-sie not three-sie, four-sie...etc
