Quote From: natalie83Oh my sweetie. Honestly, wow. This type of thinking will never change! You can see that he has done it with his older children and he is going to do it with your son. Don't let him. He will help to create a coldhearted person or someone that is going to despise him and/or you. Luckily you are not married. I say run. Run as fast as you can. Right now you are just dating, it gets 10 times worse once you are married. Do you really want to put your son through that?
And once you get married, its not going to be just your son, it'll turn into him treating you horribly. Screaming at you is already a big big BIG no no. Its abuse. I've seen it with my own mother.
He may be really funny and romantic and you love him... but there are other guys out there that will love you more and love your son just as much as they love you.
You are not being too overprotective, you need to be more protective, get your son out of that situation NOW. I was raised in an abusive relationship. My mother was abused by 3 different husbands and they all hated me.. .including my own father. My brother was also raised in it.. you couldn't imagine the type of trouble that my brother is in because of the raising he had.
I can't say it enough... RUN... don't just walk away, but run as fast as you can. It'll hurt being away from someone you were with but once you find yourself again and find that guy that is going to love not only you but your son, you will know that it was worth it.
Thank you so much for your reply. I cant believe that I have gotten to the point where I question everything that I do, and whether or not I am crazy. I was never the type of person that needed to be given a whole lot of direction, I always knew right from wrong and was very comfortable with my relationship with my son.
The one time that I threatened to leave, he said that that was proof that I let me son run my life and that I cater to him. I dont in any way let my son tell me what to do, but I do believe in letting kids have their input and their thoughts taken into consideration. After all, its not his fault that his father and I seperated, that his dad and stepmom have a new baby, that he is now supposed to try and have a relationship with my boyfriend. I just think that including their input into decisions allows them to feel that they have a little bit of control. He is a very quiet kid, and yes has done a few things wrong, but he is a teenager, and I think that most teenagers test their limits at some point. Even his own kids agree with me, but are timid to tell him to his face. They sometimes joke to him about his "odd" ways, but will never seriously tell him how his negative criticism has affected them or how it is affecting me and my son.
Thank you again, and I value what you have said. I feel that I can make a decision now and not question my sanity. I know that is crazy, but I always worry that my friends and family are only trying to make me feel better when they say it isnt right the way things are going. An unbiased opinion or opinions always help.
