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October 18, 2005, 9:31 am PDT
 Quote From: tanyaleea Hi my name is Tanya and I'm 24 years old and a single mother to a VERY active 2 year old. all my life I have struggled with my weight but have some how managed to win the struggle, until about 2-3 years ago. I became pregnant after just losing almost 45lbs and was weighing a decent 140lbs at 5'3'' tall. I was afraid that I was going to gain that back, little did I know that gaining back the 45lbs was the least of my problems. At the end of my pregnancy I weighed 265LBS!!! Holy crap!! i put on well over 100lbs. Now my son is 2 and I STILL weigh that much. I haven't gone up nor have I gone down. I have tried several things and every couple of months I lose 10-15lbs but some how it sneaks back up on me. My mother is very concerned with my weight and that is probably the main topic of conversation, before anything else she talks about how fat I am and tells me that that is why I am so depressed. I am an over eater with no ENERGY!!! and that is my problem. I don't want to be fat forever I need to lose this weight it is taking such a toll on my life and now my sons life. His father is in prison and I am the only person that he has and I have no energy to do anything with him. I want to be able to run around outside with him or put him on back and gallop around with him. But I can't, I get tired in a matter of minutes, I'm 24 years old, I should have all energy in the world. I don't work, I spend 24 hours/7 days a week with just my son. I know that my weight is holding me back from being the mother I truly want to be and time is running out. My son is only going to be young once and I don't want his earliest memories of his mother being me sitting around eating. Also I am an extremely depressed person, I am what people now call a "cutter". I have been dealing with this for at least 10 years. I am working on not cutting and I haven't in several weeks but every time I look in the mirror and see this horribly ugly, fat person staring back at me,my first thought is to cut. I don't know if losing weight will help with the cutting, because I have done that for much longer then I have been FAT but I can't cut and I just can't be fat anymore. I need to just wake up and a lose all my faults that can be lost. I'm hoping that joining this board and reading everyones post, something might .... click. Thank you for reading this and I am eager to begin reading other post. Tanya I am so glad you came to our board!! We are all fat here (except those who have been here a while and are well on their way to reaching goal, that is). And I do believe we can help you--be the support you need on this weight-loss journey. I applaud you for not cutting!! That is a true step forward to making a healthy lifestyle for yourself and your son. And step by step we will help you get there so you CAN be the person you want to be for YOU and the mom you want to be for your son. Have you read Dr. Phil's book called the "Ultimate Weight Solution"? That is the basic book we all use. Get a copy and start reading it--then read it over and over again (he deals with all kinds of emotional issues we all have so you will see it is much more than just a food plan and exercise). There are some questionnaires in the book--complete those as you read to get the most good out of them and don't just skip over them figuring you will come back and do those later. Even if you only read the book 15-20 minutes a day, you will be making progress on your new healthy lifestyle! Then begin drinking AT LEAST 8 glasses of water (8-oz. glasses). I don't mean coffee, tea, juice or other liquid either--just count the clear plain water. If you drink your water before you start drinking other liquids for the day, it is not that hard--just takes a little getting used to, but you can do it. Then sit down and plan out ONE healthy meal for yourself (a small amount of protein, lots of veggies) then another and another--you will soon have 3 meals planned. Then plan 2 healthy snacks (maybe a handful of nuts or a small piece of fruit). Once you have done that, you will have one full day planned foodwise. Then stick to that plan. It is always good to plan at least a day ahead so you have the food you need handy. And move your body a little more each day than the day before. Maybe you cannot exercise a lot, but if you can walk, try walking a little bit--some have to start at 5 minutes or less at first. Or if walking is hard on you (some of us have bad knees from YEARS of carrying the weight), you could try dancing around the house waving your arms or just sitting in a chair and doing arm lifts and circles (maybe holding a can of vegetables in each hand as weights). Just so you do SOME intentional exercise and add to that each day. Lastly, come here to this board as often as possible (I hope you will commit to coming here each day). Read all the posts--even those with someone else's name on them are posted here to help ALL the members. And post your own message--whether it's a simple "hi" or sharing with us your challenges and successes each day, we want to hear from you so we can help you. We will be here to cheer you on your successes and nudge you back onto the path of this weight-loss journey. We all have a lot of weight to lose. We know that it will take one, two or more years to reach our get-real goal weight. And we would love to have you join us on our journey. Please keep coming back to our board and I know you can do it. We all can. One baby step at a time--TOGETHER. Have a fantastic day! Cherie |
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October 18, 2005, 9:52 am PDT
Quote From: tanyaleea Hi my name is Tanya and I'm 24 years old and a single mother to a VERY active 2 year old. all my life I have struggled with my weight but have some how managed to win the struggle, until about 2-3 years ago. I became pregnant after just losing almost 45lbs and was weighing a decent 140lbs at 5'3'' tall. I was afraid that I was going to gain that back, little did I know that gaining back the 45lbs was the least of my problems. At the end of my pregnancy I weighed 265LBS!!! Holy crap!! i put on well over 100lbs. Now my son is 2 and I STILL weigh that much. I haven't gone up nor have I gone down. I have tried several things and every couple of months I lose 10-15lbs but some how it sneaks back up on me. My mother is very concerned with my weight and that is probably the main topic of conversation, before anything else she talks about how fat I am and tells me that that is why I am so depressed. I am an over eater with no ENERGY!!! and that is my problem. I don't want to be fat forever I need to lose this weight it is taking such a toll on my life and now my sons life. His father is in prison and I am the only person that he has and I have no energy to do anything with him. I want to be able to run around outside with him or put him on back and gallop around with him. But I can't, I get tired in a matter of minutes, I'm 24 years old, I should have all energy in the world. I don't work, I spend 24 hours/7 days a week with just my son. I know that my weight is holding me back from being the mother I truly want to be and time is running out. My son is only going to be young once and I don't want his earliest memories of his mother being me sitting around eating. Also I am an extremely depressed person, I am what people now call a "cutter". I have been dealing with this for at least 10 years. I am working on not cutting and I haven't in several weeks but every time I look in the mirror and see this horribly ugly, fat person staring back at me,my first thought is to cut. I don't know if losing weight will help with the cutting, because I have done that for much longer then I have been FAT but I can't cut and I just can't be fat anymore. I need to just wake up and a lose all my faults that can be lost. I'm hoping that joining this board and reading everyones post, something might .... click. Thank you for reading this and I am eager to begin reading other post. Tanya Tanya: Your dilema sounds familiar. I URGE you to seek mental health assistance quickly as the cutting is a far more devastating issue than your weight. I also have mental health issues and have been dealing with depression most of my life. It took me years to finally allow a doctor to medicate me but now I know that this medication for me is like insulin for a diabetic. It's what I need to live. As to your weight issues, I would suggest that you start moving. Walk as far as you can today, then add a minute to it tomorrow. Exercise burns calories and at the same time it increases the levels of chemicals in your body that help with your mood. If you can't do anything else about your weight today, just get up and move as far as you can! Please find help though, girl. You do not have to handle all of this alone. Lois |
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October 22, 2005, 11:53 am PDT
Quote From: tanyaleea Hi my name is Tanya and I'm 24 years old and a single mother to a VERY active 2 year old. all my life I have struggled with my weight but have some how managed to win the struggle, until about 2-3 years ago. I became pregnant after just losing almost 45lbs and was weighing a decent 140lbs at 5'3'' tall. I was afraid that I was going to gain that back, little did I know that gaining back the 45lbs was the least of my problems. At the end of my pregnancy I weighed 265LBS!!! Holy crap!! i put on well over 100lbs. Now my son is 2 and I STILL weigh that much. I haven't gone up nor have I gone down. I have tried several things and every couple of months I lose 10-15lbs but some how it sneaks back up on me. My mother is very concerned with my weight and that is probably the main topic of conversation, before anything else she talks about how fat I am and tells me that that is why I am so depressed. I am an over eater with no ENERGY!!! and that is my problem. I don't want to be fat forever I need to lose this weight it is taking such a toll on my life and now my sons life. His father is in prison and I am the only person that he has and I have no energy to do anything with him. I want to be able to run around outside with him or put him on back and gallop around with him. But I can't, I get tired in a matter of minutes, I'm 24 years old, I should have all energy in the world. I don't work, I spend 24 hours/7 days a week with just my son. I know that my weight is holding me back from being the mother I truly want to be and time is running out. My son is only going to be young once and I don't want his earliest memories of his mother being me sitting around eating. Also I am an extremely depressed person, I am what people now call a "cutter". I have been dealing with this for at least 10 years. I am working on not cutting and I haven't in several weeks but every time I look in the mirror and see this horribly ugly, fat person staring back at me,my first thought is to cut. I don't know if losing weight will help with the cutting, because I have done that for much longer then I have been FAT but I can't cut and I just can't be fat anymore. I need to just wake up and a lose all my faults that can be lost. I'm hoping that joining this board and reading everyones post, something might .... click. Thank you for reading this and I am eager to begin reading other post. Tanya Tanya,
I know how horrible you must feel. It's frustrating to feel like you'll never feel good about yourself again. I just wanted to mention that you might want to have your thyroid and blood sugar levels checked. I experienced a lot of thyroid problems after delivering my second child. I felt tired and also found it hard to loose weight. With a little treatment I was doing great. Also, gaining weight can sometimes cause type ii diabetes, which will also cause you to feel lethargic and depressed. I know from experience, I am a Type I diabetic. The good news is that Type II diabetes can be reversed through excercise and healthy eating habits. You may have already had all of these things checked and if so I'm so glad you can rule them out. On the other hand, if not, it would be one avenue to explore. Finding the cause for the changes you've experienced recently is the first step in getting better. I wish you luck and will keep you in my prayers. |
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