Quote From: artemis21I am 20 years old and went to a private all girl school in middle and high school. Many of these girls were very high achievers. Many of these girls were very isolated and coddled from the world. Many of them had "eating disorders".
I find it interesting how eating disorders are something that have only really been in existence for the past 30 years.Most of these girls are like you and don't really have any "real world" experience. I also find it interesting how statistically speaking it tends to effect middle, upper-middle, and upper class caucasian girls from the suburbs in North America and Western Europe. Almost no one in Eastern Europe, Asia, Africa, and South America has these so called "disorders."
You sound like you are almost proud of your eating disorder. You brag about your scrapbook and you refer to celebrities. I personally find it disappointing that all of the years and struggle that went to women's liberation has ended up with well off girls obsessing about their bodies. Just think about your true motivations for doing these things and not the usual cliches of "I want to be perfect."Do you think some rural peasant Chinesse farmer woman is going to be counting calories? Or even a migrant farmer girl here in this country? Do you think that guys, or anyone else for that matter, wants you to be or cares if you are 85 pounds? Or are you doing this for attention and to give you something to talk about on the so called "pro ana" sites out there with your girlfriends?
I don't mean to necessarily sound harsh or cold, I just feel like maybe had the girls who have these disorders would have been treated more harshly by their parents and society, making themselves puke or starving themselves would be the last thing on their mind.
"I don't mean to necessarily sound harsh or cold, I just feel like maybe had the girls who have these disorders would have been treated more harshly by their parents and society, making themselves puke or starving themselves would be the last thing on their mind. "
I can tell by your message that you do not know much about ED's. Many anorexics/bulimics have had really bad lives. A lot have been abused. I am treated different with my ED, and you cannot tell me that I am basically spoiled. True, people who are really poor don't have these problems very often at all- but that's because their friends/family don't treat them differently based on how they look. Don't you people get it?-- A skinny person is treated better by society (models, actresses), members of the opposite sex (you get too skinny they finally leave you alone), friends/family/acquaintances (they treat you as if you are innocent and sweet). Skinny people look younger and they don't look grown up. It's a way to erase the past, go back and 'fix' everything. I hate looking like a woman- men look at me.
So, no parents being tougher won't work because being too skinny shows people that something is wrong. Someone will always react- even if it's not the parents. It shows people the hurt, pain, and guilt. People respond to it. It's not for attention- it's for lack of attention to being older and sexual.
