Replies to '08/06 Nuptial Nightmares'

I could not agree more!  These days brides are getting too wrapped up in playing the princess on their wedding day and aren't concerned enough with what comes after the wedding -- the marriage!  I think it's ridiculous that grown women wear tiaras on their wedding day!  You're not a princess - get over it! Your wedding day should be about the joining together of two people and two lives.  It should be about unconditional love and commitment - NOT playing the princess in the final frame of some fairytale that really doesn't exist.  True, we women all dream about this day as little girls and I loved watching Cinderella and Sleeping Beauty as well, but come on - grow up!

I DO, however, believe in a reasonably priced wedding that celebrates two people who are in love and ready to make a life-long commitment.  I believe that that deserves to be celebrated!  However, too many brides and grooms today are going into major debt trying to plan a "perfect" wedding.  There is no such thing - just like there is no such thing as a "perfect" marriage.  I'm 29, just bought a new house with my husband in April and we got married July 7th of 2007 and my advice to young couples wanting to get married today is to spend a moderate amount of money on the wedding and save your money for a much more important investment - your house!  As my parents taught me - moderation in everything! (including weddings)

Hopefully these women will stop idealizing and obsessing about the details of their wedding day and start working on the long-range commitment of their MARRIAGE.  It is easy to plan a perfect wedding. It is a far more difficult task to maintain, nurture and grow a marriage that will last for decades to come.