Quote From: mdwiarsReading other posts, I hope to gleam some insight from others whom have already blended their families together.
How have others successfully blended teenagers into a new marriage/relationship?
In other words, blended families provide their own challenges over time but how have others started their blended families on the right foot?
How have others developed their teenagers to accept an excellent healthy adult relationship?
Some specifics for consideration. My fiancee (44) and I (50), now almost a year, are at the point in our relationship to start moving in together. We've both have left cheating spouses (mine left me and still lives with her lesbian lover). We also both came up on the short end of the finances during those divorces and therefore, we are not in quick hurry to get remarried. She has two adult children that live on their own and I have 3 teenage children that live with me every other week.
Her children like me and my children like her.
My oldest daughter, now 18, started staying over at her mom's house full time several months ago and will not even talk to me anymore because she couldn't accept her dad was dating. Now, my middle child, now 16, thinks it is just 'weird' that my fiancee will start start moving in (not her furniture to start). It didn't make any difference with her if I suggested a more traditional marriage approach instead. She just doesn't understand why I can't wait a couple of year until she moves onto college.
It should not be a choice between an excellent healthy adult dating relationship that could last a lifetime and a relationship with my children whom are almost grown and moved out on their own.
Ideas?
I am going through the same thing you are. The title to my story is "Tired and Frustrated" if you have a few minutes to read. I just wrote it a couple days ago. Everything your 16yo daughter is saying, mine is also saying. She asked me to just wait a couple years til she graduates and moves on to college also. I just don't know what to do now. We are starting counseling, and I guess we will see what happens from there. Right now she just ignores my boyfriend as if he is not even there. She is not rude or nasty to him just does not speak at all to him, it is like he is invisible to her. I try to explain the situation to her, but she just does not care. This has been going on for 2 months now. So, I just want to tell you, YOU ARE NOT ALONE!!!
I wish I could be more helpful to you, but maybe knowing others are going through this same thing will be a little comforting. Sorry.
