Well, I better understand your frustrations now. I thought you had a child with special needs and resented her. Having been a child with special needs, it's difficult for me to understand how mothers could resent them because no child chooses to be that way. However, I know the grief a mother goes thru because I put my own mother through it for years. Too many years. I'm so blessed that my wonderful mother forfeited everything of hers to make sure I had what I needed. That sounds selfish of me, I know. I must admit, I made her life hell. I fought her when she had to give me physical theropy, i embarrassed her at doctors visits and no telling what else. Keep in mind the medicine I was on for seisure made me twice or three times the size I should have been for a 6 year old, so it was hard for her to fight back really. The life of a mother of a child with disabilities is not easy, it's not even hard, it's down right hellacious! But it's what a mother has to endure if she wants her child to have a normal life. They make unselfish and very necessary sacrifices, but your situation is different. Anyway, I hope your daughter is just going thru the typical 18 year old phase and she'll one day grow out of it. It's sad but unless you choose to support her behavior, and I know you don't, but the only other option is to train her to make a life of her own, meaning teach her how to find a job, pay bills and get a place of her own. There comes time when it has to happen eventually, otherwise you're stuck supporting her for life. Hang in there, you're almost there!
I apologize if I seemed snide in my last post. I do my very best to put myself in someone else's shoe before passing judgement, unless they are being deliberately vicious about their situation or toward another poster. Forgive me?
