Quote From: jean36Hello,
I have been married going on 9 years. Whenever my husband and I have sex it for the most part is good. My problem is..... He never initiates. He almost always falls asleep on the couch after eating and watching tv. I go to bed alone. He sleeps deep and has to get up in the morning early for work. I of course am an eveing person , he is a morning as far as sex. He never tries to stay awake and come upstairs to engage in foreplay or just holding each other. I try to keep myself attractive and still not much interest shown. I understand that part of the problem is due to work, and the kids but when I confronted him about it he laid all the blame on me. He is making jokes to his friends that I never "give it up" and told me that he is always ready and it is up to me when I want it. Am I just nuts or don't women need to feel wanted ? Need some foreplay sometimes? I told him it takes two, he said nope, the way he sees it , that it is all in my court . I am frustrated and it is not making me want to try harder , just makes me feel bad.
Talking about the ball being in your court....well tell him there are no balls to be Seen! hee hee bad joke! Anyhow, you are right, you need him to show he is interested. Talk to him again, and let him know that you need his love to show through physically as much as mentally. You too need to take some extra measures as well. Wake HIM up when he falls asleeps on the couch and tell him hey come to bed and I will make it worth it....and take his hand and lead him in there. What about him excerising at nights so he can have more energy? Talk this out because it can become a bigger issue in the marriage and it's very repairable. But you too have to contribute more even if it means you have to give more than you get in return. Sorry but good luck.
