Quote From: bigmommaddMy husband and I have been married for 7 months today, and we have been together for almost 4 years. While we dated, whenever i was on my period he never had a problem making love to me, in fact he insisted most times even when I didnt feel up to it but after a bit i really got into it. Well literaly over night, 2 months befor the wedding he decides we cant do that anymore. I pushed for an answere for so long and a couple months ago in a fight, he yelled that its disgusting and he only did it to keep me! I dont understand at all, since he is the one who insised on it to begin with! He claims that other "normal" couples dont do it! But i remind him "honey, since when are we normal?" when i reminded him of that he just got quiet and said he just doesnt have an answere. Now when i am on my period, he insist i pleasure him to "get him by" till im off, yet i dont get anything anymore when throughout our dating relationship, i basically was conditioned for it now im getting cut off. What can i do to either help him return to how he was, or get him to help me understand why he is doing this? Im 19, going ot be 20 October and he is 20. We dont have kids and for awhile i thought that was the reason, a period is a failure, but he insist its not the reason...help me
Oh man, I feel so bummed for you.
Your husband is showing some real controling behavers. Has this been accompanyed by any other controling moves? Not liking your friends & getting angry when you see them? Fighing with your family & being cold to you after you go visit them?
If so get into couples councling right away. It's a red flag for me that he wont do you but "insists" you get him off. Also admiting he maniplated you with sex to be in the relashionship is very strange & telling. If he would manipulate you in such a strange & needless way what else is he willing to do to get what he wants?
Let me just say, there is nothing wrong with your cycle. In fact having sex, orgasims, & getting yourself off will help with cramps.
Ask him who told him"normal" people didn't do it? Maby he is really into it & became embaresed because it was turning him on so much & somone told him it wasnt normal. I think someone already mentioned this, actualy.
Ask him, why is this so importent to change? & if this is something thats not going to change let him know that if he wont get you off than he dosn't get any sweetsweet either.
Also you are SO young to be maried & in a 4 year relashionship. My goodness. Please remember you change so much in the next 6 years. Whatever changes happen to you, & to him are going to be natural. Growing apart may happen, & you may be one of those couples that stay together forever, good luck on that. But for that to happen your husband needs to learn that you are his treasure & manulaption is not healthy.
