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Quote From: jd1972

I am at my wits end and can use some advice. I have been married to the most wonderful man for the past 8 years. He's worked in the same industry that whole time, in a steady, "normal" field. The problem is, he says he doesn't want to do his same career for the rest of his life. That's fine with me, but every other thing he comes off with is something that's very drastic financially! He wanted to open a business, go back to school to be a professor (taking out a full loan and ultimately, not making much in the end-oh, and we'd have to be open to moving just about anywhere). This last one is the worst, and it's come up before. He wants to quit his job, get a degree in music, and become a professional musician. Granted, he's studied it since he was a kid. Despite my persistant arguments, I know that even if he's the best musician in the world, a degree is not necessary. The bottom line is he wants to take out a loan, then end up with an unsteady job that probably won't pay much, and will involve horrible hours. He insists this is what he always wanted to do and everything else was just stuff he was looking into. How on earth can I handle this? It always leads to fights. I don't want to be a nagging wife, sound like a parent by saying "no" or breed resentment if I don't support this. But, I'm afraid I'll become resentful, and I hate how he sees no problem with putting our financial future on the line. Please-no judgements, just advice on how I can handle this. Thanks!