Quote From: kimikomineOr wait for him to ask you to lunch one day. If you are friends, then it should work both ways.See what happens when he makes the suggestion. Also, I think your friend is a little on the cheap side :) if he brings a guest without there being any invitation or discussion. Now there should not be a discussion for a man or woman to bring their s/o with them to lunch, dinner, movies....they are probably hooked at the hip and can't do anything without each other or they just love each other so much...:) either way, its not the extra person that is the issue here, right???? So next time he brings his wife, suddelnly realize you didn't have money to pay for the WHOLE BILL. He will have to pay and then he may start to wonder if this will happen more often. Its a sneaky trick but then again, I don't think you are playing with a fair player anyway. Goodluck.
This is how things work with him. Whenever I come over to the area where they live, she always comes with us. It has been decided by him, that she will come along, he says based on their culture - The fact that he is married and he is friends with someone who is single and younger than his wife. He said that it has something to do with appearances, a married man going out with a single woman. I don't see it that way at all. I am not attracted to him sexually, so that would never happen. I think it's a jealousy thing on her part and she probably doesn't want to be left out. She and I are not friends and I wish to leave it that way. So, there really wasn't any discussion between him and I about how I felt about her always coming along. I do understand about significant others, but to always come along when you are not friends with them seems a little odd, almost like it's forced socializing. When I come over to his side and it's not a thank you lunch, they pay for my lunch, but it turns out that we get together for more thank you lunches, so I end up paying more times, for both of them. I certainly do not want to come across as selfish or inconsiderate, I am in no way any of those. I just want to find out what is fair. I work near him so sometimes just he and I get together for lunch. But, when he comes over to where I live, she is invited, but never comes out with him. I have always wondered about that. So, him saying that his wife has to always come along in my opinion is bull because she never comes over to my area. There is something not right about that statement. The issue here is the other person. Since the thank you is to him why should I always have to pay for her lunch?
