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Hello,

What do you think about this?  My husband was not home by a reasonalbe time the other night.  I was very worried.  Finally, after 10 pm I got a call from him saying he was arrested and would be out in about an hour but would not say more.  I thought, well at least he is ok and maybe he does not want to say anything in the police dept so as not to incriminated himself.  So around midnight he called.  He was out.  He told me directly that he did not want to lie.  So he said that he has been stressed and thought he would do something for himself.  He went to a massage parlor and was going to get a massage with a happy ending.  It was a police sting and he was arrested, cuffed and thrown in jail.  He was arrainged in court the next day and has a court date in October.  He says its the first time he has ever done it and that he is so embarrassed and ashamed.  He is appologizing profusely.  He left the next day to take the kids on a camping trip and I went to work before he came home.  I have not seen him since before this happened on Thursday and today is Sunday and he is coming home.  I really dont know how I should feel.  He is my best friend and my everthing.  I want everything to just be the same but then I feel like I am just blocking it out.  When I think about him going there it disgusts me.  We will talk tonight and I will get a better idea of what really happened and if this was just an impulse thing as he says.  Do other women just accept this? We have been married for 8 years and have a pretty tight schedule with the kids.  So he does not have alot of away time where he could be carrying this on with any frequency -- but I an not sure about that either.  I feel like if I just forgive him and accept it I am compromising myself.  Help???