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August 28, 2008, 8:37 am PDT

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Quote From: clarkt5

Yes I know they are..I don't know if gut feelings are a blessing in disguiese or a curse.. At this point anything is possible. It would not surprise me if they were seeing each other before we got married. BUt why would he marry me then? I think the hardest part of all this is that he was going to adopt my son. My son is autistic and loves Kurt very much. That is his dad. Papers were drawn up but never signed. Now I have a son who is confused and missing him. Knowing my son and his coping skills this is going to be a long process and alot of questions and demands for me. I have to stay strong and put together for him, trust me that little boy feeds off my emotions like no tomorow.

I think he forgot alot of the vows not just that part..

I have the court date already and in this state he does not have to be there because I am the one who filed. However, he is and I really dont want him to be. I am dealing with hormone issues which cause me to be overally emotional. I do not want to give him the satisfaction of crying. I also know I dont have control over that yet..I keep praying for the strength to get through that and that by then my hormones will be in working condition. I think this is his one last chance to drive that knife in.

 

I had my surgery the last week in July so we had been seperated. He sent his g-friend up there instead of coming up himself. I don't know this man and that scares the hell out of me. Makes me afraid of trusting another man.

 

He is a very nice man and anyone who knows him will say that, what I have seen and gone through with him shows me another side, you know the mean, manipulative person..

 

I still have a few more weeks before I have to go back to work and hopefully I wont bump into either one of them..

I can't answer the question about why your husband married you if he knew he could not and would not be faithful. I'll bet he can't answer it either, so don't focus on it too much. In my opinion, he sounds like the sort who promises the world and falls down on the follow-through. He wants and  expects others to make his life complete, never realizing that it comes from within. You may well come to thank your lucky stars that your time with him was only a year.

But I have to repeat my warning, don't be pushed into any big decisions yet, either by your own tortured emotions or by his urgings. You are emotionally fragile and need time to get better. You must look after yourself and be kind to yourself, and make decisions that will be the best for you.

I would line up a counselor and a lawyer while you have the time to look over your options.

 


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