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August 28, 2008, 7:39 am PDT
 Quote From: getrealtime I disargee with Madison50, I think if she knows she can not handle a child with a disability, then she needs to have no children at all, because not all disabilitiys come from birth, and then she spreads her weakness on to her children.
Children do not come with guarantees, and you can't return them when times get hard. I think people forget what family is, and it not a ride on the lazy boy, family do for eachother because they love eachother. I was 25 when my mom became really sick, and I bathed her feed her took care of her. I didn't have any abilitys that others don't have, I just did because it was right thing to do for my mother the woman that took care of me and loved me showed me this is what family is about. Madison50 is a cop -out we all are can do more then we know we just have to be willing and not selfish about it.
Quote from madison50 "it's not in me" Well if its not in her she should not marry or have children, because life happens and she could be placed there, and if she know she can't give that much of herself then she shouldn't enter into any commitment that she may have to give more then she is willing.
J. Some people think that when they have physically and mentally "normal" children, life will be The Brady Bunch. My children are all what would meet a standard term for "NORMAL", yet we got a slam, turning us into very challanged people. Had I known, or had HE known, that he was incapable...my husband would NOT have had children...not with me anyway. It wasn't in him...and he did nothing but feel sorry for himself...truth is, he would have been happier if my kids and I were dead...not that he said it, but you look at Robyn, and Cyndi on the show, there he was. You'd THINK that from a bigger family, he would have been more able to pull it out, and that my being the only child would have lead me to curl up in a ball...people do take to their beds and don't get up if they crack...but for whatever reason, not superiority...just a different make-up, I found the strength to go into this with full force. He was good for making sarcastic comments, maybe picking up school supplies...but to handle this...NO! He would have been the ORECK of sweeping it under the rug. You DON'T know until you face it...I know now...and I hear a lot of Madison in him, him in her...but SHE is honest...true, I feel that a personality like that is better off not having children...like playing roulette. I do admire her for telling up straight...her husband won't feel a draft if he thinks someone's got his back, cause he won't expect that. I felt the Arctic blast, and I expected to have a human shield...so maybe they have it covered, as a couple...but I think the lady was being truthful. I was watching THE MEMORY KEEPER'S DAUGHTER. The one twin had Downs Syndrome...the father gave her away...I saw her, and my heart just wanted to take her...love her...O.K. this was a movie, but really, I didn't think I'd ever have extreme emotions for any child other than mine...but WOW! IMPACT! So, you really don't know..just have to tip my hat to Madison for telling how she feels. It really took a lot of courage on her part to put it "out There"
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