Quote From: toristevenHello,
I have a little boy who just turned two last week and he will not keep his diaper on. He has recently learned how to take his pants off and then his diaper.
He is resistant to the potty though but does know what poo poo and pee pee are. He is still reluctant to have me change his dirty diapers most of the time as I think he is just to busy playing to be bothered.
I want to start potty training him but my husband is very resistant insisting that he is just not ready. He only likes to play with his potty chair and the big potty scares him.
I did try letting him run around with a naked bottom and he would go outside to pee on the patio and even pooped out there a couple of times. Because my husband had to clean him up one time when he did that he put the kibosh on the potty training telling me he is not ready because he is pooping on the patio.
It seems like a novelty to him to let him do it outside as I am sure he has seen his father and brother pee outside many times.
That was a couple of weeks ago, now the last two mornings he has removed his clothes and his diaper by the time I go to get him out of bed and has pooped on his sheet, which tells me he no longer likes to feel it on him anymore.
My older son never did this...he was three before he could even identify what was going on in the potty direction and by then it was easy to explain. He did love peeing outside and pooped outside too and I would just always get TP pick up the mess and bring him with me as I showed him that the proper place to put the poo was in the potty.
I have done this with my 2 year old but am not sure he is old enough to understand me or not. He does communicate pretty well but the way he looks at me when I talk about the potty stuff seems like he is confused.
Does anyone have any suggestions or opinions? Think he is ready? Acting normal for being ready? Boys seem so much harder to train than girls. The underwear is no motivator at all for him but he does love being naked. Any advice from anyone who has trained boys age two?
Oh, yes, he's ready... Kids are much smarter than we give them credit for -- speak plainly and frankly to him and expect him to understand, if he doesn't he'll let you know. Here's the thing if he takes his dipe off then he knows he's messy and doesn't like it; that is a good indicator. But if he goes on the patio then he already knows when he needs to go -- that's beyond ready and nearly done. You just need to direct where he chooses to go. I don't believe your issue is with your son at all but with your husband. I have 5 kids all under 7; every time I start trying to potty train I have a hard time getting my husband on board... Let's face it, it is much easier to clean up a mess in a diaper than a mess in underpants, or floor, or patio. Have you thought about using the whole patio thing as your key to success? Maybe put a potty chair out there then start moving it closer to the door, then inside, then into the bathroom, then on to the big potty. Might work for him and would show your hubby that your son is ready... worth a try!!! If your husband just doesn't want your son to associate the patio with the potty then daddy and big brother need to stop modelling the behavior to him. I would try putting the potty out there first as suggesting to my hubby that he change his own behavior would make him want to pick a fight.
My issue has been a total regression in my 3 yr old after the arrival of her baby brother and sister. She was almost completely trained a year ago, then back to stage one. I've been working with her for months (in panties not dipes) and I am finally starting to see a change in her attitude -- wanting to be a big girl rather than a baby. I don't think it's a boys or girl issue at all, I just think all kids develop at a different rate and some are more willful than others -- you just have to keep trying til you find a techinique that clicks. The key is to be more determined than your child (or hubby) and remember that it is worth it in the end!!!
