Replies to 'Balancing Marriage and Family'

Quote From: chelle1961

My second marriage and his 1st. we are in our 40s.  He is a mamma's boy and admits it. his mother is a great person and we get along very well.  we live in one area and she lives 2 hours away. he travels to her house every friday for the weekend. she is about 72, still works, gets around, family, friends, etc.  She's healthy.  my husband can't let go. he calls her house home and doesn't like our area. we live 'here' because of our jobs.  before we got married he said he's still going to his mothers every weekend and i said, well I'm not - I have 2 teens (one works parttime) and its not fair to drag them around.  I do go to her house maybe once a month.  I do enjoy the 'break' we get, but feeling sad or I just feel its too odd with their behavior.  he does more with his mother than with me. They have dinners together, church, shopping, casino, etc. They have a routine.  They'll have icecream / tv like a couple of kids.  he still brings his dirty laundry to her. she washes/irons his clothes, cooks dinners, packs cooked food, etc for him to bring back.  whatever is on the weekend agenda, they do.  I would never ruin their relationship, but I think he should spend more time with his wife and less with mamma.  Its a matter of time when people start asking, where is your wife?  He belives that God comes first, then family. He is a very dedicated person, but I feel more dedicated to his mamma than me.  we've dated 6 years before marraige and married only 2 months.  I just feel he doens't understand what marriage is and carry's on like he's still single and mamma's boy.