Quote From: mominthemiddleI have never participated in a message board format before. I guess the only way to begin is to say that I am a single mother caring for my 11yr old son and my 90yr old mother. My mother is in very poor health and has been bedfast for several years. I take care of her at home. I have health issues as well which adds to the challenge of all this. Between the stress of my mom increasingly becoming more confused and my son pushing my buttons ( especially when I am worn down with a tough day with my mom) I am hard pressed to find a way to release this pressure. I am angry more and more with my son for not helping and giving me a hard time, yet he won't negotiate with me. I don't know how to handle them both together.
How can I get more help and discipline with my son. My mother's condition will play out on its own. I can only manage it the best that I can. I am really at my wits end with this coming at me from both sides and being only one person to deal with it.
I think its great you have been able to care for your mother as you have. But it sounds like your son is missing out on his mother. If you dont have a support system then I suggest you find one. Hospice is a major support, with wonderful people, which will free up some of your time so that you can spend it with your son. Your County Nursing Services could also be of assistance with an in-home provider and numerous other resources.
Your son doesnt understand the hard time you are experiencing and why would you want him to undertand. He is a child and needs to enjoy his childhood with his mother. Dont be angry with your son for not helping, he didnt choose the situation you have chosen. You will never get these years back with him. Please get support for you and your family. There are numerous resources out there. Seek and you will find.
