Replies to '08/19 Tired of Being a Mom'

The women's rights movement was supposed to free us from these stigmas, but our biggest critics seem to be other women.  I also have nothing for Andrea Yates, and cannot help but wonder had she only had one child, would her post partum depression escaled into physchosis?  It would seem to me that if it happens once, it has a greater chance of happening again.  I was surprized that Brooke Shields took a chance, after having read her book, Down Came The Rain.  She was lucky, but Andrea really pushed the boundaries, and in her frame of mind, I think it was what Russell wanted, so she did whatever he said.  Look at how that went.  Very tragic, and unnecessary.

What is wrong with having one child?  This child will be raised with love, by a mother who  isn't neglecting her because of too many other children that would be too much.  It's quality, not quantity.  For those who want large families, can raise them with love, give the attention needed, and do it with joy, nobody is stopping them or criticizing them.  So why do they have to take differnt personalities as an afront to their choices?

I wanted two.  My first pregnancy was spent bedridden for almost 9 months.  I waited until the first had started school, just in case it were to happen again.  I had no control over how my body handled pregnancy.  The second was not a problem, so go figure.  I still feel that my choices in life have been responsible, and I take no criticism personally.  I'm the one who has to live in my skin, so I'm the one who has to be comfortable.  Same with you stopping at one.  It's your business.

I can see where some feel that my attitude means that I think less of a handicapped child, because I said I could not do it.  I didn't mean that they shouldn't do it, just gave the other side.  After seeing that show, I am convinced for me, my choices would have been right.  Why say you can, knowing you can't and end up harming a handicapped child more.  I think it's cruel to do. 

Knowing I have children, and have no resentment towards them, allows me to make the necessary sacrifices we all make for our kids.  I won't do anything daredevilsh because I my children need me.  I stopped skiing, never would ride a motorcycle, or go bunji jumping.  It doesn't promise me a long life, but I take the steps to control what I can, and the rest, I do what we all do, hope for the best. 

I also would vote for any candidate for public office who had a platform to provide better services to  handicapped children, even it it meant paying higher taxes. 

Instead of judging women who KNOW their limits, and getting insulted, why not ask us to join in a lobby to get more for those who can do this?  I'd join in.  By saying I CANNOT DO THAT, does not mean I won't help those who do. 

I hope anyone who does have feelings of inadequacy about not wanting this full time job, will face their truths, get help to face the ignorance, and be productive in their own way, the best for them as people.

I had hoped that women would support each other in the movement to liberate us from our past oppression.  Being stomped on was why women rose up in arms to begin with.  Those before us were not lazy, they were brave, and I will carry the torch in appreciation for their efforts against that which made us second class citizens.  We all are special and unique, but not lazy or instant baby makers.  I support the women who can, as I support women like you and me who know who we are and where are strengths and desires lie.

The women's rights movement was supposed to free us from these stigmas, but our biggest critics seem to be other women.  I also have nothing for Andrea Yates, and cannot help but wonder had she only had one child, would her post partum depression escaled into physchosis?  It would seem to me that if it happens once, it has a greater chance of happening again.  I was surprized that Brooke Shields took a chance, after having read her book, Down Came The Rain.  She was lucky, but Andrea really pushed the boundaries, and in her frame of mind, I think it was what Russell wanted, so she did whatever he said.  Look at how that went.  Very tragic, and unnecessary.

What is wrong with having one child?  This child will be raised with love, by a mother who  isn't neglecting her because of too many other children that would be too much.  It's quality, not quantity.  For those who want large families, can raise them with love, give the attention needed, and do it with joy, nobody is stopping them or criticizing them.  So why do they have to take differnt personalities as an afront to their choices?

I wanted two.  My first pregnancy was spent bedridden for almost 9 months.  I waited until the first had started school, just in case it were to happen again.  I had no control over how my body handled pregnancy.  The second was not a problem, so go figure.  I still feel that my choices in life have been responsible, and I take no criticism personally.  I'm the one who has to live in my skin, so I'm the one who has to be comfortable.  Same with you stopping at one.  It's your business.

I can see where some feel that my attitude means that I think less of a handicapped child, because I said I could not do it.  I didn't mean that they shouldn't do it, just gave the other side.  After seeing that show, I am convinced for me, my choices would have been right.  Why say you can, knowing you can't and end up harming a handicapped child more.  I think it's cruel to do. 

Knowing I have children, and have no resentment towards them, allows me to make the necessary sacrifices we all make for our kids.  I won't do anything daredevilsh because I my children need me.  I stopped skiing, never would ride a motorcycle, or go bunji jumping.  It doesn't promise me a long life, but I take the steps to control what I can, and the rest, I do what we all do, hope for the best. 

I also would vote for any candidate for public office who had a platform to provide better services to  handicapped children, even it it meant paying higher taxes. 

Instead of judging women who KNOW their limits, and getting insulted, why not ask us to join in a lobby to get more for those who can do this?  I'd join in.  By saying I CANNOT DO THAT, does not mean I won't help those who do. 

I hope anyone who does have feelings of inadequacy about not wanting this full time job, will face their truths, get help to face the ignorance, and be productive in their own way, the best for them as people.

I had hoped that women would support each other in the movement to liberate us from our past oppression.  Being stomped on was why women rose up in arms to begin with.  Those before us were not lazy, they were brave, and I will carry the torch in appreciation for their efforts against that which made us second class citizens.  We all are special and unique, but not lazy or instant baby makers.  I support the women who can, as I support women like you and me who know who we are and where are strengths and desires lie.