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October 24, 2005, 7:07 pm PDT
I apologise
Quote From: flmom38you sound very judgemental with that one little paragraph. I have a biological son and 2 adopted daughters. I could not have any other children and yes, "I DID CHOOSE TO ADOPT". How can you know what is involved in the choices people make. For us, we had the choice to not adopt and have 1 child, adopt and have more children, or try infertility treatments to have more biological children. Your statement makes it sound like you think adoptive parents are selfish! They are just like anyone else - they want children. I adopted from China and most people tell me how much they admire me and how wonderful it was that we did this. My response is that I adopted because I wanted a child just like everyone else. I was not doing some heroic deed by giving a child a home. If I was selfish I would take the credit they try to give me and run with it. Watch how you phrase things without too much explanation. Someday you may say that and a young adopted child or teen may hear you and start to think that maybe their parents would give them back if they got pregnant or had other options. I can tell you that my adopted children are completely loved and wanted as much as my biological son. The process and emotions we went through to have our daughters was so much larger and emotional than our son and just filled our hearts up with love for them all. I want to say I am sorry for what I said in a earlier post. I was upset with my MIL at the time. She adopted my husband and his sister when he was three. Whenever we ( my husband and I ) make a decision she doesn't like or they argue she always throughs it in his face. She has said things like I didn't have to take you or I wish I would have picked a better kid out. When adoption is done for by loving ppl it is a beuatiful thing. Again, I want to apologise.
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