Quote From: latingirlHow old are the children? The kids not matter what age can be put to bed at a decent time , so the two of you can work on being husband and wife rather than mom and dad all the time. A healthy family doesn't work if there is not a healthy marriage behind it. You too need to have some fun together. Buy something sexy to wear, light some candles and put those darn kiddies to bed. Take advantage of the night time. I would rather be tired in the morning, knowing I had A geat evening with the love of my life the night before. That enough will get me through the day!
However, as someone mentioned above, my wife and I also have different time preferences. I love to make love before going to sleep at night. Then you can snuggled and feel close all night. She prefers to wait until the morning to make love. The problem is that our 2 year-old sleeps in a bed now, she got it for her 2 year-old birthday. She now gets up in the morning and comes into our room. Since my wife isn't in the mood at night, and the kid is in the room in the morning, our sex life has dropped off from barely there to non-existent in the last few weeks since we switched our daughter from a crib to her bed.
We had a bad night last night. She said something that bothered me when we were going to bed and we ended up staying up until 1am talking things out. I feel better except that she has really grown weary of the relationship talk. She also let me know that it bothers her to see me not myself. I am consumed with trying to make our relationship better. Though the changes have been mostly positive she is concerned that I have lost interest in the other things that I was interested in before.
So here is a question, do I need therapy to get through this? I have been trying to back off and give her some space but I am so needy right now and in constant need of reassurance. How do I give her the time and space she needs to heal because we aren't going to get better until that happens. HELP!
