Quote From: lil_espyIn 2003 I delivered my second child. The joy was overshadowed by the depression I had been dealing with since his father left in my 6th mo. It was hard to deal with him wanting to be around for doctor visits and parenting time. Now the baby is 2yrs old and we have a lot of communication problems. When his father comes to pick him up we don't talk, it's like a hand off in football. I am frustrated because I have no idea how his father dealt with day to day issues during his visits. I am still very angry with his father and don't feel like I am able to separate my feelings and issues from the issue of caring for and raising our son. How do I "get over" what happened to me in the relationship so that I can be the kind of mother I should be?
There are 2 issues here. The first one has to deal with the "getting over" what happened to you. It's been 2 years and it's still that much of a problem for you. Perhaps you need to reach out for professional help on that issue. You need to have healing for your self so that you can move forward in your own life. So that you can be whole. So that you can enjoy motherhood. So that you can be a blessing to your child.
The second issue is dealing with the baby's father. Try e-mail communication with him. You will be able to say what you need to say without having emotions take over. I find e-mail to be a very effective way to pass information back and forth with someone I can't communicate well with otherwise.
