Replies to '03/16 Cheerleader Scandal'

The reality is that as much as some of us like to play amateur detective ... (myself included, somtimes) ... the reality is that we do not know what really happened.  We have a lot of supposition and conjecture floating around on this board.   

For instance, based on news accounts, Stepanie was 20 years old at the time.  Just another fact in cyberspace that is available.   So you don't have two teenage girls fighting at the time .... as has been assumed on this board. 

And we do not have any indication that anyone was cheating on anyone else.   Oh, I know that some on this board have put one and one together and added that up to cheating .. but you could be adding wrong.  There are many times when people reenter each others' lives.   

And just because a grandparent is not involved with a grandchild does not mean that the child is not biologically his or hers.  My brother and father were estranged for years.  Were my brothers' children still grandchildren all those years?  Absolutely.  Was there any relationship developed over all those years?  None whatsoever.  So if my brother passed away ... it would not be a given that my father would reenter those children's lives.  Now if you knew my dad during all those years he would still tell you he had X number of children and x number of grandchildren (always including my brother and his children in the number).  He could even give details about the family from things he gathered when we were together.  People living in the city where my Dad lived probably assumed that he had a good relationship with all his children and grandchildren.  They probably, and some did, put two and two together and got four ... but in our family's instance .. they were WRONG!  There was a time in our lives when my brother and his wife were the second guardians in line if anything happened to my husband and me.  And then when the estrangement occurred we changed the will.  Not because I didn't love my brother.  Not because I didn't think he and his wife would be good parents.  But because I wanted my children to know their grandparents - all of them - and I knew that wouldn't happen as long as the estrangement existed.  Things just aren't always as they seem.   

And demanding that any of the players answer all of our questions is really just that - a demand.  They don't owe us explanations.  They don't owe us answers 

There is someone on another topic demanding that people answer his/her post ... answer all his/her questions.  This poster has deduced that the nonresponse to his/her questions means that no one can answer his/her questions or that anyone else's opinions could stand up to the test of his questions.  It is almost funny to watch as he posts and reposts the same questions - daring people to respond.  But it is sad too. 

So as much as we would like to solve this 'mystery' ... we all know that rarely do things get tied up in neat little packages like on CSI, Law & Order, etc.  Real life is huge.  

The reality is that as much as some of us like to play amateur detective ... (myself included, somtimes) ... the reality is that we do not know what really happened.  We have a lot of supposition and conjecture floating around on this board.   

For instance, based on news accounts, Stepanie was 20 years old at the time.  Just another fact in cyberspace that is available.   So you don't have two teenage girls fighting at the time .... as has been assumed on this board. 

And we do not have any indication that anyone was cheating on anyone else.   Oh, I know that some on this board have put one and one together and added that up to cheating .. but you could be adding wrong.  There are many times when people reenter each others' lives.   

And just because a grandparent is not involved with a grandchild does not mean that the child is not biologically his or hers.  My brother and father were estranged for years.  Were my brothers' children still grandchildren all those years?  Absolutely.  Was there any relationship developed over all those years?  None whatsoever.  So if my brother passed away ... it would not be a given that my father would reenter those children's lives.  Now if you knew my dad during all those years he would still tell you he had X number of children and x number of grandchildren (always including my brother and his children in the number).  He could even give details about the family from things he gathered when we were together.  People living in the city where my Dad lived probably assumed that he had a good relationship with all his children and grandchildren.  They probably, and some did, put two and two together and got four ... but in our family's instance .. they were WRONG!  There was a time in our lives when my brother and his wife were the second guardians in line if anything happened to my husband and me.  And then when the estrangement occurred we changed the will.  Not because I didn't love my brother.  Not because I didn't think he and his wife would be good parents.  But because I wanted my children to know their grandparents - all of them - and I knew that wouldn't happen as long as the estrangement existed.  Things just aren't always as they seem.   

And demanding that any of the players answer all of our questions is really just that - a demand.  They don't owe us explanations.  They don't owe us answers 

There is someone on another topic demanding that people answer his/her post ... answer all his/her questions.  This poster has deduced that the nonresponse to his/her questions means that no one can answer his/her questions or that anyone else's opinions could stand up to the test of his questions.  It is almost funny to watch as he posts and reposts the same questions - daring people to respond.  But it is sad too. 

So as much as we would like to solve this 'mystery' ... we all know that rarely do things get tied up in neat little packages like on CSI, Law & Order, etc.  Real life is huge.