Replies to 'The Other Woman'

The cheater is ALWAYS to blame.  AND the other woman\man involved in this always seem to blame to innocent wife \ husband at home.  That is something I don't understand.  Of course the cheating spouse is not going to tell you how much they love their spouse and how precious they are, nope they are going to tell you what you want to hear.  How it's ALL their fault for the failure of the marriage.  But the person who falls for the B.S. is not seeing the big picture at all.  WHO wants to be with someone that doesn't have respect for his or her own family and likes to blame it on the innocent one.  If the marriage is not working, get OUT and then proceed.  Not the other way around.  

  

I am sorry to hear that you are in the mist of a troubled marriage.  But DO something about it! Don't sit back and let someone rob you from your life.  Life is too short to wait for someone to change!  

I am the other woman who posted and said that I have no obligation to her. I stand by what I said and here's why. When I met this man he told me that he was marriage was ending. The two of them were "together" for the children. He led me to believe that his wife had no interest in him either mentally or physically. This was entirely evident to me because he spent a lot of time with me either in person or on the phone. She does not work and the kids are in their late teens...they do not need a nanny. She shopped all day and bitched at him constantly. He let me listen to a few of the phone messages she left him. I've even heard the two of them speak on the telephone. She's horrible. I would NEVER allow another person to speak to me the way she did to him. While I realize that he should have ENDED the marriage before seeing me, I agree, but that's not reality. People stay together for all kinds of reasons. I do love him and I have no doubt that he loves me. Where was this woman when he spent all this time with me? Why did she not bother to inquire where he was or who he was speaking to for hours on end? Why did she wait until she found out about me to get a reality check? Why am I the "wake up call"? This is total BS. I understand that people take each other for granted but don't sit around and do nothing to work on your marriage and then play the victim. Yes, he cheated and he is wrong but it takes two people to make a bad marriage. He may have went out and cheated but she negelcted him.