Replies to 'Balancing Marriage and Family'

over the last few weeks his going to his mothers has really bothered me even though I am a pretty independent person.  Its just not normal for a grown married man to go to mammas every weekend.  so he came home and asked whats wrong. I told him. he screamed at me that he'll call his cousin lawyer for a divorce. then called his mother to tell her that he won't be coming home anymore and why. then he said for now on everything is going to be his way.  he went to bed at 7pm and whimpered.  he did apologize the next mornig and i had a chance to tell him more in depth how i felt and why, and that I don't want to ruin his relationship with his mother.   see, he'll tell me we need to be 'frugle' but still drive 2 hours to her house, plus more when he gets there, gas & tolls, etc. with the gas prices its just not right. he's not making any sacrifice.  he goes up every friday afternoon; if we have plans for a saturday night, after church he'll be back around 7:30pm; then he'll drive back to mammas saturday night or sunday morning. = more gas & tolls.  so if my family has something planned, he asked, do you want me to go? I tell him no, becasue he'll be burning all that gas money.  its insane.  His doctors, dentist, are all at mamma's town; all his bills get mailed there; auto registration; magazines; etc. he's lived in our area for 25 years becasue of his job and he's never adjusted because 'he doesn't like it down here'.  I told him I feel like I"m on the back burner, why did he even get married, and that he does more with his mamma than with me. And I told him that I was holding back because he would have said that I'm selfish.  I'm not selfish; I just think its not normal for a grown married man to behave like he does.  he should go to his mother's every other weekend.  wouldn't he think that people think its odd for him to leave his wife on the weekends? I"m sure even his priest thinks its odd.  don't get me wrong either, I've gone to his mother's countless times; every holiday dinner, etc.  he's gone from friday afternoons and not home until 7 or 9pm sunday nights.  I like your resonse about "I Alter You".