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September 19, 2008, 2:09 pm PDT
Interracial Relationships
Quote From: exfactor33I am a 34 year old black female and I dating a 30 year old white man. I have never been happier in my life. Before I met him I never believed that it would be possible to find someone who I could share everything with. He is so loving, geniune, and sweet. Despite the color differences we have soo many things in common. We both feel as though we are each other's soulmates. The problem is that I come from a very religious and conservative Christian family background. I called my sister up to tell her about him because her and I were really close, and she has always been very supportive of me. I thought maybe she would be happy for me. However, when I told my sister about him she seemed shocked and taken back. She even made comments along the lines of " I really hope you are not serious about continuing to see this guy". I have not told my boyfriend what her reaction was because I don't want him to feel hurt. He is a very sweet sensitive guy. I have strong feelings for him and regardless of what my family thinks I am going to stick with him. However, I am not even sure if I should tell my boyfriend anything about what my sister thinks and I don't know what will happen to the relationship between me and my sister.
I am a 40yr. old white woman and I was in a serious relationship with a black man for 5yrs. I thought my family would be happy too until I told them about him. They said, What? Who? Anyway, to answer your question. I was honest with him about my family's feelings because I felt it was more respectful to tell him than not. I felt like I was disrespecting him by letting him go to meet my family and think that everyone liked him - when that was untrue. I was extremely hurt by my family's reaction and in the end my loyalty was with him. I love my family, but I feel someone's skin color has nothing to do with their value whatsoever. In the end my family came around for the most part. I'm sure your family will come to accept him when they realize you really love him. If not, it's your life to live and your happiness end. Best of luck,
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