I used to do online correspondence with an ordained United Methodist Minister, now retired, who married the only woman toward whom he ever experienced a physiological sexual attraction. He said that he had been in the presence of very attractive women before he met his wife and of course saw lots of women who were visually sexually attractive during his adult life. But, he never experienced a physiological sexual attraction toward another woman besides his wife.
It is quite possible for one to fall in love with a person of one gender AND marry that person, while all of that person's other physiological sexual attractions are directed toward others not the gender of the person whom one married.
My own father, who was exclusively heterosexual, did marry the last woman with whom he fell in love (they both were my biological parents and I was born 3 years after they got married).
But, he told me that he did experience those inner body attractions toward women in his presence. He called that feeling "getting his passion up." But, he refused to even lust after them. So, as Jesus would say, "He did not commit adultery in his heart (because of what he felt or saw)."
