Topic : 02/14 Love Smart Island, Part 2

OK. Yesterday I watched Part 2 of Love Smart Island AND the Prime Time special. And in both I was dissapointed that once again a problem was presented with NO solutions. I saw Donna having jealousy issues and why but no solution on how to get past it. Then with Paula on the evening show and her problems but again no real solutions. Dr. Phil - you can do better. 

I am also getting tired of seeing all these 20 something girls who are having problems finding a man. They still have time. How about a show for women over 40 trying to find that special someone. Our time is running short. We have a better idea who we are, what some of our issues are but can't get past them to find a man right for us. Have you forgotten about us?! Maybe have a show for us with some real answers. 

Karen 

So January thinks she "deserves" the best.  Why because she is attractive?  What did she do to be attractive?  Her mom & dad should have the credit for that not January.  Because she is successful?  Well, so were the blind date guys.   

I read a post from one of the other island girls that defended January as sweet, successful, yadda, yadda, yadda.  If she was all that successful, you would think she would realize that they are taping everything she says and keeping everything she writes.  I think she just let us see her real, shallow self.  I judge people on how they treat others--the rest is just an added bonus.  Obviously, turning it around is not working so why hold on to it so hard? 

She also thought her date might be Jay McGraw and was so excited about that because he is so hot.  Well, from what I have seen of Jay, he wouldn't give her 2 seconds.  He is kind and compassionate and would never want to spend time with those that are rude and hateful.  When he dressed like a loser to go on those interviews, you could see how much he hurt for those that were stuck in that kind of a life.   

From January's comments regarding her previous relationships and how they treated her, I think she asks for it.  Not just because of her attention to the wrapping but because there has to be a reason she always picks guys that treat her poorly.  If there were 400 attrative, great guys in a room and one was a cad, she would right by the others and pick the rotten apple. 

I have to admit that these ladies have a lot of courage to go on national television and admit that they require help.  It isn't easy being ridiculed for your beliefs, as misguided as they may be.  Having said that, here is my two cents worth: 

To January and the other ladies - stop your navel gazing and get out of your own head.  There are so many luscious people in the world that you pass over because you are too self-absorbed.  You need to develop some human integrity, some compassion and some humility.  Go volunteer at a burn unit (where scars are not pretty), sit with the elderly (who sometimes smell funny and make strange noises), serve soup at a soup kitchen (where the clients have nothing), donate time (not money) to a worthwhile cause.  In short, get over yourselves and put something back into the world instead of thinking that you are entitled to everything because you are such a ten.   

You spend thousands of dollars on hair, cosmetics, designer fashions, but how and with what do you feed your inside. Sure, you're all pretty but as long as you don't speak too much or too long, you can get by on your looks.   

You all have the potential to be luscious people too, you just have to start feeding your soul.  When you are truly less self-absorbed, love will come your way.  And the best part is that you will not leave hurt in your wake.