Topic : 08/14 Trouble in the Spotlight

The Mothers are the ones addicted to their hobby ! Most pageant kids don't want to do the Modeling practice , the hair and make up room is Bawling Kids screaming not to pull their hair , These Mothers have these kids hair teased like an old lady , Why can't the Pageant Mothers see that Even Miss America or Miss USA doesn't wear that much Make up , Fake Teeth or Fake Hair . Nobody but Drag Queens use that much Hairspray and Make up !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! 

It's Something that should be looked into !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  

The competitive nature of children's sports, pageants, events...is just unbelievable today. Everything that is important in relation to family and normal family relationships is given up today so that all of the parents can traipse around to event after event after event to watch their children perform like some circus animal...while event producers go home with the prize of all...   Parents' hard earned dollars!!! 

Parents have lost sight of what is important in life. What ever happened to teaching children to share, take a back seat to something or someone else, participate in family chores, ... when do you teach them values, morals, ethics...how to give service to needy people...etc.... 

INstead, the parents run from swim meet to swim meet, soccer field to soccer field, pageant to pageant, dance class to dance class...etc...etc.... Enough already...    LADY , YOUR KID ISN'T THAT SPECIAL.... GET A LIFE!!!!  GO HOME AND DO WHAT YOU ARE SUPPOSED TO DO...PROVIDE A LOVING, NURTURING ENVIRONMENT FOR YOUR WHOLE FAMILY. YOUR KID IS NOT GOING TO BE A BEAUTY QUEEN IN LATER LIFE. SHE IS GOING TO CUT HAIR IN A SALON..OR WORK IN A DOCTOR'S OFFICE, OR WORK AT STARBUCKS....   AND THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH THAT....   THE AGENT THING IS JUST A BUSINESS DESIGNED TO TAKE YOUR MONEY.   Don't be a sucker!! 

It has been my experience that parental obsession with their childs success is a common parenting error. Exposing children to a variety of activites in order to find out what  they exhibit a talent and interest in is a good thing. Competitive sports can be good. It teaches a lot of life lessons including time management and committment. BUT, where many parents make an error is in living their ambitions through their children. This is unfair and it set the child up for failure. Only a few very talented people will be models, actors, olympians and professional hockey players. 

The maintenance of self esteem is essentional to life success. Find out what your kids are good at and celebrate the small things. 

Ha ha............. loved the sarcasm, yet then again it is eerily acurate - the comparison..........like the good Dr. said "creepy" 

cheers, from a fellow Canuck 

Ya know what Dr. Phil, I am not any kind of authority on too many things but I do feel I have good common sense.  I agree with all the above comments and do agree with what you told the mom.  But........ I feel you didnt hit her hard enough with what she is doing to her marriage AND her youngest little girl.  How sad she looked.  The older girl is turning into a snot and the baby girl is just invisible.  What mom could do that to her little child?  Just think of all the bad things mom is setting her baby girl up for for a life time while she's so called setting up big sisters "possible but probably not" career.  I hope you REALLY continue after her tail about the baby.  That breaks my heart.  Another unwanted child!  What's wrong with some of these parents.  They seem to have lost oxygen to the brain somewhere along the road.  Hugs and more hugs to the parents who hug and kiss and say I love you to their children and all the other things that tell the kids that they dont have to be the best anything except themselves 'cause you love them for who they are! 

Bonnie...please start by apologizing to your sister, and then by giving her a HUGE hug, because she's only looking out for your daughter's safety!! Your sister may be many things, but she isn't a hypocrite - not in the way that YOU claim. I was stunned at your ridiculous reply - when you defended your position by calling your sister a hypocrite; instead of acknowledging the fact that she has a "good point" with regards to Jon Boni (sp). Sounds like you and your sister push your children in different arenas, but at least your sister isn't putting her child in a high risk situation for being molested and murdered. Remember - they still haven't found Jon Boni's murderer!! 

 Madison is a very beautiful little girl. The real Madison that is.  The head shot pictures of  the fake Madison, of her smiling, without the showing of the fake teeth, are beautiful also, but she doesn't look like a child, well her head anyway. The fake Madison looks like a child with an adult head. The look is very disturbing to me....  

 Those fake teeth have got to go. Those things are scary.. Hey wait! Save them for Halloween. They would be perfect then.... 

 It  makes me sad when a mother teaches her child they aren't good enough. So very sad.. The real Madison has a natural beauty to be extremely proud of. I wouldn't change a thing. Her real smile is awsome and the gap is  beautiful.