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Topic : 08/14 Trouble in the Spotlight

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Created on : Friday, February 10, 2006, 12:49:43 pm

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(Original Air Date: 02/16/06) Every parent thinks his or her child is special, but these mothers are obsessed with making their child a star -- so much so, they're willing to sacrifice their marriages and divide their families. Kari and Bonnie are sisters who are at war because Bonnie encourages her 8-year-old daughter to wear make-up, false teeth and spray-on tans to compete in high-glitz beauty pageants. Kari says the pageants should be outlawed, and fears her niece will become prey for pedophiles. Will Bonnie learn to see Kari's point of view? Then, Ranel is convinced her daughter is the next Dakota Fanning and will stop at nothing to see her child's name in lights. Her husband, Charles, says she's neglecting their younger daughter and their marriage. Can they come to an agreement? And, a mother faces criticism and mockery for putting her 6-year-old son in beauty pageants. Is she making a mistake? Talk about the show here

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auntchris

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February 16, 2006, 2:28 pm PST

Yeah Right

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pageants aren't only about appearance

interviews count for so much of your overall score!!!!

So many people have said "Its not about looks, appearance, beauty, etc." If its not then whats up with the makeup, expensive outfits, teeth whiteners, etc. I have a neice that when she was small everyone told her mom she should be in pageants, but this was right after Jon Benet incident and she refused, but she had a grandmother that told her how gorgeous she was. Then she got older and developed tunnel vision and almost went blind, she ended up having to wear really thick glasses for awhile then went to smaller ones and then came into that awkward gawky faze. She has depression now and thinks she is ugly and I believe if she had been given a better set of values she wouldnt have some of the problems she has. I would rather my child know they are a beautiful person in character than in looks. Yes problems can develop in everything that kids do and it is up to the parents to teach their children what is important in life and how you look and how well you play soccer is not it.

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monstore

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February 16, 2006, 2:28 pm PST

Trouble for these Little Girls

Some people have very little real trouble in their lives and so I guess they go looking for it. This is a disgusting display of mothers who have far too much time. Also misused resources and dreams of glory. Spend that $65,000 to take that child on educational trips, or buy her savings bonds. Invest, think it through. These mothers should be forced to volunteer in an inner city emergency room. Help out in a rehab or better yet, deal with anorexic and bulimic girls. Since that is what they will be dealing with soon enough at home.

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ppitstop

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February 16, 2006, 2:32 pm PST

lessons in inauthenticity

These parents are fooling themselves and teaching their children that being something other than who/what they really are is what wins in life! These pageants aren't about parading around the children as they are in reality--everything they wear and do is FAKE. And they win by being the FAKEST! This can only screw a child up psychologically for when they deal in the real world, without their makeup, fake teeth and hair extensions on. How sick.

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suzebear56

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February 16, 2006, 2:32 pm PST

Children's Pagents

I have always felt that CHILDREN'S beauty contests should NOT allow these precious little girls to wear makeup, hair pieces, fake tans, teeth, etc. They should be based on the natural beauty and cuteness of the child. I think the people in charge of these pagents have the opportunity to stop the madness. These pagents create future problems for these little girls...we rush our children to grow up too fast! Let them be children, soon they will be adults and we will never have a chance to do it over. It's sad, it's not for the children, it's for the Mom's and they should be ashamed of themselves. Let the children be children and not little madeup adults.

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beth109

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February 16, 2006, 2:33 pm PST

=]

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What and where are these"bash boards"?

i feel that these pagents are okay as long as they are for fun and you arnt going bankrupt over it. if you do it for too long and it becomes an obsession than a problem of course has formed. i dont see anything wrong with it.

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juliebgg

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February 16, 2006, 2:34 pm PST

To Hollie (Hunter's Mom)

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Julie

I tried coffee this morning OH not a good idea I get caffiene toxic and so now I'm all spastic... BUT annnyyyhooo

The show is on at 7pm here we will be having birthday dinner for the Mamason and I prefer to watch this anyway after the pea goes to sleep I don't think it will be appropriate for him to watch.

I'll try to swing by after that.

Hugs

Hollie

Hi Hollie

Just got in from a staff meeting so I missed the beginning of the show. Your part should be on soon. Gonna watch with a cup of hot chocolate this time! Talk to you later.

Julie

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tinarl73

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February 16, 2006, 2:35 pm PST

pageants

I THINK IF YOU DON'T DO PAGEANTS THEN DON'T SAY ANYTHING ABOUT WHAT HOBBIES WE DO. PEOPLE ASK WHY THE FAKE HAIR, MAKE UP, ETC. WELL WHY DO MOTORCYCLE RACERS WEAR PROTECTIVE GEAR? IT'S PART OF THE GAME THATS WHY? MAKE UP AND HAIR IS PART OF THE GAME LADIES. THERE IS NO HARM IN PAGEANTS. WE ARE NOT OUT TO HURT ANYONE IT'S JUST THAT WE DEFINE THIS AS A HOBBY JUST LIKE EVERYTHING ELSE. THERE IS MORE FIGHTING AND BROKEN BONES IN SPORTS AND I WOULD SAY THATS HURTING SOMEONE. BUT THIS ISN'T HURTING ANYONE. I KNOW THAT EVERYONE HAS DIFFERENT OPINIONS ABOUT EVERYTHING, BUT UNTIL YOU'VE TRIED DOING A PAGEANT, DON'T KNOCK IT. I'M SURE IF YOU PUT YOUR CHILD IN ONE AND SHE WON THEN YOU ALL WOULD BE THE SAME WAY.

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melanie11

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February 16, 2006, 2:40 pm PST

These moms have their own issues to deal with

Why would you put your precious child on display for the public? GET YOUR OWN HOBBY!! Why would you risk even 1 pervert getting their kicks off of your child's picture? You are sick people.

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Mandylionn

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February 16, 2006, 2:44 pm PST

02/16 Trouble in the Spotlight

Seeing the pictures of that little girl made up too look like a “plastic hooker” was wrong on so many levels! She’s just a child, she should not be put in the position where she is judged on her looks, not only that, she’s told she’s got too look better, plastic teeth!!!!!!!!! My God that child had more make up on then Tammy Faye back her day!!!!

Putting her imagine out there on the internet like that! Did anyone see the Oprah show yesterday? The 13yr old who got caught up in internet porn? Come on think about it, her picture is out there for ANYONE too grab, too me that’s just like opening up your door and saying “here take her” This whole beauty thing and little girls is just not right! What one earth are these mom’s thinking putting there babies out there like this?

Who ever said that this helps boost there confidence come on, what happens when they lose” oh sorry your ugly? These things should be outlawed! They server absolutely no purpose! Come on people wake up what are we doing too our children?

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donna2236

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February 16, 2006, 2:44 pm PST

Congratulations to your son!

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I will be the first to agree with you that my spelling is horrid. I don't think I could have completed my MBA without spell check and miss it greatly in these forums.

My son gets 100s on his spelling tests and I tell him how proud I am that he is such a great speller since Mommie stinks at it and he promises to help me with mine :-)

Your son sounds like he's pretty smart ! Ah, but is he handsome? I'm sorry if my posts seem strident on the topic of women not relying upon nor being judged based on their appearance. As a fellow MBA, former military officer, and business owner and more importantly of an age that I remember when women had to fight to be taken seriously in the workplace (worse yet, fight to get into those jobs previously open only to men!) I'm shocked that no one seems to be responding to those elements of my postings that have to do with this. Why do we always emphasize how pretty a girl is but always how smart or strong a boy is? P.S. I post replies/retorts in red as these pages tend to blend together and I appreciate it when others show their replies in red so they stand out as a new remark.

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