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August 15, 2006, 2:28 pm PDT
madison's mom needs a reality check
Quote From: lexgabellaI just adored your rant. I have three beautiful and talented (I feel , and I will admit I am a bit biased as all mothers are!), and I wouldn't put them through that crap. I mean, I will sign them up for dance or skating or drama or t-ball if they wanted to (and they'd have to go through with it for more than a day. I wouldn't let my kids cop out if I forked over the dough! But if they truly didn't like it anymore after the six month mark, fine, at least you tried). I dunno. It just seems to really put a black mark on the children's self esteem. Like you wrote, why put on all that fakeness? It's not you winning. And what if your child doesn't win or doesn't get the part? What then? What if all your avenues burn up and you are left in the same place you started out as? Or, ironically enough, what if the child you are ignoring turns out to be the future shining star just to get back at the parents or impress the parents? Then you are left with one sibling full of resentment over being ignored and the other being resentful or their sibling succeeding where they failed. It's way too much pressure for anyone under adolesence to take. (Even teenagers should think twice). It, to me, is all delussions of grandure. They don't see the future (I agree with daddy #2, most, not all, child stars have problems, drugs, multi-marriges, drinking, prostitution, eating disorders, besides, what is more degrading for a brilliant star who is in the "where are they now" columns?). The parents want to life vicariously through their kids. I admit, I wanted to be an actress and a "rock star" and I feel I am talented enough. But it ain't gunna happen. And there is no way in hell I am going to force my child into doing this for my sake. If they come to me in ten years from now and say this is truly what they want. I'd do my damndest to make it happen, BUT, I would want them to focus on other talents and abilities they possess and have a plan B and C and D, because you just never know. Also, it's been my experience that a mom and wife who spends the family fortune on her own desires and leaves the husband bankrupt, blames the man for not making enough even though it is SHE spending it all (I will admit this is a bias and there are couples who together become bankrupt for stupid reasons or the husband doing this to the wife), but what happens if it all falls apart? Then what? I agree with your post and just wanted to add to it, God bless you and if you are a mom, good luck and good job with your kids. (If you aren't, you're heading for a great start with your attitude). OK I THINK MADISON'S MOM IS IN TOTAL DENIAL, SHE HAS NO CLUE WHAT SHE IS DOING TO HER DAUGHTER, NOT TO MENTION HER OTHER CHILD WHOM SHE APPARENTLY DOES NOT GIVE A HOOT ABOUT. ALL THE TIME SHE WAS ON STAGE IT WAS ALL ABOUT HER. I WANT, I NEED" I I I I I I I I AD NAUSEOUS. SHE IS TURNING HER DAUGHTER INTO A SELF CENTERED LITTLE DIVA WHO THINKS THE WORLD REVOLVES AROUND HER. WHEN A CHILD TELLS HER KINDERGARTEN TEACHER THAT SHE IS NOT GOING TO LEARN HER ALPHABET, HER AGENT CAN DO IT FOR HER, ENOUGH SAID, THAT IS A GIANT RED FLAG. IN MY OPINION THAT MOTHER IS ONE STEP AWAY FROM EMOTIONAL ABUSE, NOT ONLY OF MADISON BOT HER OTHER CHILD AS WELL, SHE NEEDS TO WAKE UP TO THE DAMAGE SHE IS DOING TO HER CHILD
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(Original Air Date: 02/16/06) Every parent thinks his or her child is special, but these mothers are obsessed with making their child a star -- so much so, they're willing to sacrifice their marriages and divide their families. Kari and Bonnie are sisters who are at war because Bonnie encourages her 8-year-old daughter to wear make-up, false teeth and spray-on tans to compete in high-glitz beauty pageants. Kari says the pageants should be outlawed, and fears her niece will become prey for pedophiles. Will Bonnie learn to see Kari's point of view? Then, Ranel is convinced her daughter is the next Dakota Fanning and will stop at nothing to see her child's name in lights. Her husband, Charles, says she's neglecting their younger daughter and their marriage. Can they come to an agreement? And, a mother faces criticism and mockery for putting her 6-year-old son in beauty pageants. Is she making a mistake? Talk about the show here
