Topic : *A Dr. Phil Prime Time Special: Love Smart*

  

Anna's 1st clue about Rob should have been the pic with his profile when she decided to start e-mailing him... 

  

Paula made the right choice from her  2 guys. She needs to let go and just have fun!  A second date-period.  Despite all those longing looks and song to "woo" her in, musicians/songwriters tend to be selfish and insecure. She didn't need a mirror of her  own personality for a second date. (no, I'm not flaming Paula! she admitted she was insecure!) 

  

Call me jaded, don't care, I've met too many "Robs" and musicians.......    :) 

I would love to sit down and talk with Paula Abduhl myself.  She is very attractive and has an outgoing personality.  It seems she has a love-hate relationship with Simon.  Paula needs to get out of Hollywood if she wants to find a down to Earth man like Hal.  I would  like to tell Paula to bring it on in Ohio with her bad self.

i was watching it too last night but i fell asleep darn! i was just wondering who paula picked??

I don't believe Dr. Phil was hard on the girls, or disregarding any of Robs behaviours. I simply think he was showing the girls that regardless of Robs conduct they have to take responsibility and make smarter choices for themselves. I believe he was teaching them how to avoid those situations by arming them with the truth...so that next time they'll be more aware.  

  

Also on the average vs. beautiful concerning dating....Personally I don't think it's any easier just because your looks might be more enhanced then someone elses. Feelings and looks are seperate issues. Visually, looks might make you more approachable or it can make you seem intimidating that you're not approached.  

Regardless, it doesn't make it any easier weeding through to find the right one for you. The same amount of work applies. 

It's easy to say " She's beautiful, she can't have any problem finding a man".... - That's not always the case... 

  

I think Paula abdul pick the right one I mean she just needed an average joe not someone who was famous like her she need someone who was successful in his own way but not the music business or hollywood business. Dr. Phil did a great job by having her get the celebrity guy so that she could kind of get a taste of both and I really liked that.  Paula I think will get a good taste for this guy and everything will work out well for her.Paula, I hope everything works out for you and I will be praying for God to bless you and give you the man you deserve. 

  

Jessica 

Hey There, 

  

She picked the bowling buddy, Hal. 

  

Let's hope we get an update to see how they are coming along. 

Cindy in FL  

    When I first read your reply to my original post, I thought you were genuinely appreciative of my post and agreed. That was until I got to the sentence,"Men like you make me laugh." I then had to assume your whole reply was meant to be sarcastic.  Not  100% sure if that is what you meant it to be? It is sometimes hard to fully understand if something was meant as sarcasm without hearing the tone of the person's voice.  So I will expand on what I said as well as try to clarify things. 

  

    Like I said previous , we should expect to date someone in "our own league." If you are in "average looking" then you should expect to date someone that is "average looking." You may find someone who is above average looking ,but that is usually the exception ,rather than the rule. 

  

  As far as your comment ,"I'm open to anyone but the problem is these days, it's the men who don't seem as receptive to women in their own age group, (mid 40s) ". I am sure that is true, but I would like to know, how exactly is this your problem? These men are not worth your time, so why are you frustrated with them? I am sure there are men your age that will find you attractive and interesting if you just give them a chance. 

  

I am glad to hear you don't do the "one night stand thing". But as far as that, being one of the reasons that you are single, I would have to disagree. I disagree because, if the sex is the only reason why a man is staying in your life, then do you really have him anyways? I think not. You just have a sex partner and someone to go out with, but not a true companion and friend! Don't get me wrong, I am a guy and love sex, but I think there has to be more to a relationship for it to survive. 

  

   I hope I have cleared things up. Take care and think positive! 

  

      

  

    

Dr. Phil, your show on Love Smart was Great.  I really enjoyed it and I am so glad Paula picked Hal.  My only surprise was that you didn't even acknowledge Robin sitting in that car for the WHOLE SHOW ;-).  I think you should have at least mentioned her it was Valentines after all. 

I really do think you are great and I love your show and have read all your books.  You have helped me and my twin daughters get through some really rough times.  Thank you so much.  God has truly blessed you. 

Thanks for being YOU! 

Sincerely 

Laura 

P.S. Hi Robin, I think you are awesome as well. 

While entertaining the sad thing about this is  it will not change anything. Rob will still be a player and will probably get even more woman after being on the show. As for the three ladies they will still continue to pick these type of guys. The bottom line is woman don't want a nice guy. I'm so tired of hearing woman complain about men when they choose the same ones time and time again while passing on guys like myself. If I hear one more woman say you can't help who you fallin love with or tell me about the romance faze of there abusive relationship I think I am going to be sick. Listening to Anna talk about what an amazing catch this guy was and how thoughtful and sweet. You know just from the way the guy talked and acted It should have been obvious. You can't say people around her or the other woman didn't say something or disapprove. I can give a hundred examples of woman I have known that have been told the guy was like that but there answer was always you don't know him like I do.  I am an attractive guy. Finacially I'm not wealthy but I do alright. Family is very important to me. I am very romantic. I am looking for a commited relationship. And I have been turned down by woman more times than I can count for these kind of men. Now it seems the only woman interested in me are in there 40's with two or more children. Don't get me wrong I love kids but why is it that the same woman that 15 years ago chose the jerk over the nice guy and had two children with him now expect me to just say ok no problem now that he's left you let me be a part of your life now.. Ladies if you want a nice guy go for the nice guy, or quit complaining about your choices.

  Sincerly,

                  Single in IL Mike

Just goes to prove that money and fame can't assure you of the happy ever after!