Topic : *A Dr. Phil Prime Time Special: Love Smart*

Quote From: vader76

Ana, if you look at this know that I would be honored to coorespond with you, but  Idon't know how to do that:  I was immediately attracted to your beauty, passion and intelligence...I know you must be very hurt from Rob but maybe if you see this posting you would give me a chance. 

  

I'm a sweet, compassionate, loving man looking for a classy lady like you. 

  

Hope this gets to you... 

  

Sincerely, 

Russell 

Quote From: nycitygal

But he certainly is a narcissist.  You could tell that in his mind, it's all about him, all the time.  He only paid so much attention to you and the other women because it made him feel good about himself.  Temporarily, anyway.  To narcissists like Rob, people are just objects for an ego fix, and women even more so.  That's why he moves on so quickly to new women and so many -- he needs a new supply of his favorite drug -- narcissistic supply.  Do some reading about narcissistic personality disorder online.  It's a real eye opener!  Women can be narcissists too, but men make up the majority. 

  

By the way, Ana, you were fantastic.  I've been duped by guys like Rob too, and I think you were very strong and set a great example, for women of any age.  It's too easy for women to make excuses for men, holding onto false promises, etc., for far too long. 

Quote From: wwa21613

 A book I read recently said wait for four months to see if he is worth giving yourself too and a keeper. Realistically, I know this is a stretch... woman have needs too, but you can learn a lot in 4 months. And you're right if you're not giving it up within two weeks (or two dates) a Rob  will move on if that is all he is out for and it will save your a lot of heartache.

There was nothing said last night on Dr. Phil about std's and hiv, don't forget about it. If we think we're the only one, we don't think it can happen to us. HA! Four months allows plenty of time for discussion and testing! Lest I repeat myself, I met a guy online who I found was on another service with porn pics and over "200 friends". You can search most dating sites for free before you sign up. If you meet someone online, search for him on other sites. If he is an player online, chances are he is on 2 or more sites. Also, the picture that Rob had posted!!! Please! If that didn't tell you he was a "playa"... then I don't know what will.

Wendy in MD

Quote From: jokerwild

I watched the show with Rob and the women he was involved with...what a load of dung. I have 5 daughters and i KNOW they're everyone smarter than those women were, maybe because they were raised not to hand their hearts and bodies out to the first slick talker that comes along...how many of these women met Rob in a club? Why did they think he was there? Did they think that was where theyd find "true" love and how many of these women slept with this clown on their first date? I more than agree Rob was dead wrong in the way he treated women but come on..."LETS GET REAL",  women open your eyes and stop whining when you get jerked around by this kind of a guy...you asked for it. When you meet someone in the club setting or especially on the internet open your eyes and hold onto your hearts...the world is full of Robs.

Quote From: mbberry

While entertaining the sad thing about this is  it will not change anything. Rob will still be a player and will probably get even more woman after being on the show. As for the three ladies they will still continue to pick these type of guys. The bottom line is woman don't want a nice guy. I'm so tired of hearing woman complain about men when they choose the same ones time and time again while passing on guys like myself. If I hear one more woman say you can't help who you fallin love with or tell me about the romance faze of there abusive relationship I think I am going to be sick. Listening to Anna talk about what an amazing catch this guy was and how thoughtful and sweet. You know just from the way the guy talked and acted It should have been obvious. You can't say people around her or the other woman didn't say something or disapprove. I can give a hundred examples of woman I have known that have been told the guy was like that but there answer was always you don't know him like I do.  I am an attractive guy. Finacially I'm not wealthy but I do alright. Family is very important to me. I am very romantic. I am looking for a commited relationship. And I have been turned down by woman more times than I can count for these kind of men. Now it seems the only woman interested in me are in there 40's with two or more children. Don't get me wrong I love kids but why is it that the same woman that 15 years ago chose the jerk over the nice guy and had two children with him now expect me to just say ok no problem now that he's left you let me be a part of your life now.. Ladies if you want a nice guy go for the nice guy, or quit complaining about your choices.

  Sincerly,

                  Single in IL Mike

Quote From: gracyn

I don't believe Dr. Phil was hard on the girls, or disregarding any of Robs behaviours. I simply think he was showing the girls that regardless of Robs conduct they have to take responsibility and make smarter choices for themselves. I believe he was teaching them how to avoid those situations by arming them with the truth...so that next time they'll be more aware.  

  

Also on the average vs. beautiful concerning dating....Personally I don't think it's any easier just because your looks might be more enhanced then someone elses. Feelings and looks are seperate issues. Visually, looks might make you more approachable or it can make you seem intimidating that you're not approached.  

Regardless, it doesn't make it any easier weeding through to find the right one for you. The same amount of work applies. 

It's easy to say " She's beautiful, she can't have any problem finding a man".... - That's not always the case... 

  

Quote From: lakewind

  

Anna's 1st clue about Rob should have been the pic with his profile when she decided to start e-mailing him... 

  

Paula made the right choice from her  2 guys. She needs to let go and just have fun!  A second date-period.  Despite all those longing looks and song to "woo" her in, musicians/songwriters tend to be selfish and insecure. She didn't need a mirror of her  own personality for a second date. (no, I'm not flaming Paula! she admitted she was insecure!) 

  

Call me jaded, don't care, I've met too many "Robs" and musicians.......    :) 

Quote From: violette

TERRIFIC SHOW - CAN'T WAIT TO BUY THE TAPE. I AM SURE PAULA WILL FIND "MR. RIGHT" . MUST BE TOUGH TO "GET REAL" WITH THE CAMERAS ROLLING AND HIDDEN MICS... SHE IS CHARMING. MY COMMENT ON "MR STUD" - HE JUST HASN'T GROWN UP... LACKS CLASS AND MATURITY - THE NET HAS BECOME FANTASY LAND TO THE SINGLES OF THIS GENERATION. THEY SHOULD ALL BE READING YOUR LATEST BOOK.. IF THOSE GIRLS ARE SO GORGEOUS AND SO EDUCATED ..... THEY NEED TO READ YOUR BOOK.. WOMEN OF THIS GENERATION ARE STARVING FOR LOVE - BECAUSE THEY DON'T LOVE THEMSELVES....

Quote From: glorialee

 Dr Phil,     

  

    All of your guest, are young and beautiful. Did you forget about us, the older generation. There are lots of us out here and we need help finding love too. Although dating for us is similar, there are distinct differences. Come on! Give us a brake! Do at least one show, about the older generation and dating.     Love the show       Gloria 57yrs