Topic : 07/31 Are You a Bitch?

You are likely right that he should throw her sorry butt out, take charge as a fulltime single dad and move on to raise those kids to a better life.

Sadly, due to the open pride of our society's hard work against the best interests of abused men, there arrises a problem: Abused men usually refuse to do anything, refuse to report the abuse, refuse to  protect themselves ....

Until we are willing to raise the status of abused men and their children to that of fellow human being we will continue to have children damaged and destroyed by abusive women.

I wrote on this in the early 1980's. The problem has gotten worse. One --among many-- of the reasons for the damage to chidlren can be seen in Dr. Phil's treatment of these women in comparison to abusive men.

With abusive men Dr. Phil gets right into their face; he calls them out. With abusive women Dr. Phil gets all nice with "how's that working for you." There is no calling out, no calling for them to be responsible, no charging them with the damage they do.

Therein lies the essential difference. With abusive men society gets tough, with abusive women society gets supportive. This is a great wrong which harms children as well as men.

After seeing the Dr.Phil Show yesterday, I'm beginning to think that I'm a cupcake.  However, I do work in the service industry ( school and a full time job!). I've served people like Kristine all the time and you know what? You're right Dr.Phil! The cardinal rule is do not mess with people that serve your food ( unless you happen to enjoy the taste of phlem)  My co-workers and I deal with people like that with a belief that however miserable,  we are serving them for the short time- They must be miserable with themselves all the time!  People who are polite and patient  get the better service- period.   Nobody cares if someone like Kristine walks out ( actually we're a little bit happier that they leave and hope they never come back!)  Just remember (like Bob Dylan said) "everybody's got to serve somebody..." 

  

Carrie 

To you, bitch stands for some positive things, to the rest of the English-speaking world it has negative connotations. When women proudly refer to themselves as "bitch", it's the same type of effect as an African-American proudly calling themselves the "N" word. It doesn't connote power, but rather a lack of self-respect and a lack of understanding about the origins of the word.

Changing yourself is one of the hardest things to do. I have had quite a few bad and I mean BAD relationships in my life. What has helped me is to remember that my husband now is not the one that was awful to me and doesn't deserve to be treated as such. Everyone is an individual and deserves to be treated that way. 

What a beautiful gift to give your child! You must be very proud...raising your daughter to refer to herself as a female dog. A word used by the rest of America to denigrate her as a female. She's got some long, hard, lonely  years ahead of her. 

  

Like I said in an earlier post...a woman who refers to herself as a bitch carries the same connotations as an African American who refers to him/herself as the "N" word. It does not imply power or a sense of positive self-regard, sorry.  

  

life is a bitch, and then you grow up to  be one. This is a bumper sticker, sweetie...not a message of wisdom. Please don't live your life by the bumper sticker mentality....I'm sure you are smarter than that! 

  

Hi there, sure lots of so called bitches seemingly have friends, yet I really think that true blue loyalties must be out of their scope.  Like the good Doc said bitchiness breeds passive aggression and more than likely they are drawn to those people that in all probability will stab them in the back. 

  

Just my opinion, take it or leave it.  

Have a good one  

'cheers', 

from north of the border 

Fredi 

Hi there, sure lots of so called bitches seemingly have friends, yet I really think that true blue loyalties must be out of their scope.  Like the good Doc said bitchiness breeds passive aggression and more than likely they are drawn to those people that in all probability will stab them in the back. 

  

Just my opinion, take it or leave it.  

Have a good one  

'cheers', 

from north of the border 

Fredi 

 There is absolutely no reason to be rude or disrespectful to anyone to get what you want. You will get out of life what you put into it.  

I have worked in different jobs that work with people on different levels. The one I currently work in is an area that I worked in 10 years ago and have come back to because I can make people happy on the level that I enjoy. Other jobs it was mostly phones. Sure , I was nice to them on the phone and tried to be helpful but now I am able to smile at people and they can see me. They can really see for themselves that I am happy to make them happy. I have A LOT of elderly people come in and they love it when you smile at them and are compassionate with them. Well everybody does. If these B@%*h's would stop and try being a little sweeter then they would find how much more they would get. You don't have to be mean and nasty to keep from being taken advantage of. Caution and wisdom will help with that. 

  

Indeed, I agree with this. Explain how we are viewing you incorrectly?  

Did we miss the tape that showed you apologizing to your family? Apologizing 

to the people you bullied? Maybe I stepped out of the room while that segment played? 

  

As I mentioned on another topic, there should not have been enough tape to  

'make you' look bad. Obviously you offered and / or exhibited these actions, and 

sure enough, they were shown on Dr. Phil.  

  

Ask yourself, if you are such the good person you claim to be, then why on 

earth would you have agreed to the show in the first place? Why was there 

even bad behavior which was tape worthy? 

  

Either it was all a put on for fifteen minutes of attention, or you truly do have a problem. 

  

We seem to think it's a little of both. You sat in the chair and pretty much declared yourself 

a big bad a**, subject to the scrutiny (judgment you say) of millions of viewers. If you 

are truly the new and improved, perhaps we will see you on the next show, working for 

charity, holding the door for the elderly, smiling once in a while, saying PLEASE and  

THANK YOU and leaving a worthwhile tip for the waitresses. 

  

A few crash courses in common courtesy would be of benefit.  

  

  

  

  

I think reality television has spawned the bitchiness as a virtue culture.  Look at the Apprentice, Survivor, The Bachelor, and how awful these women act.  I can no longer tolerate watching these shows because of how awful they behave. 

  

 Being a diva is perceived as a good thing....so much so that they sell diva merchandise in the children's department!  And don't even get me started on those hideous Bratz doll.   

  

If you think the current generation of adult women are bitchiness, wait for the ones growing up.  They see this behavior reinforced on television everyday.