Well, I cringed when I saw the name of this show because I thought to myself, "oh hell, this is me" but actually I don't think that now. I'm sure they're are some people that may still disagree but those people are probably the ones that pushed me into a corner and a little bit of bitch came out!! LOL. I would now say more than ever than I am definately assertive. I do nice things for people first, I greet everyone nicely first, I don't wait for someone to do something nice for me first and I don't expect people to step aside to let me pass by. However, if I feel or know that I am right, or feel strongly about something I will standup for myself in a heartbeat and depending on how far "they" want to take it, they may get the "bitch". I don't let me talk to me or treat me any kind of way, however I don't demand anything from them either. Most people feel you out a little before they 'take you on' so to speak, and I think most people that know me will tell you that I would give you the shirt off my back, but they also know not to mistreat me or try to 'runover' me. And yes, I have eat 'sh-t' before, who hasn't? Sometimes I do it just because I don't feel like having a confrontation. Depending on the situation at hand has alot to do with the way I handle it and I'm sure some people would say, 'Nah, she's just a pure bitch'. Oh well, I think the ones that think that are the ones that didn't get away with making me a doormat and they're pissed off because they couldn't make me a doormat like they have everyone else in their lives. I'm not too good at being a doormat, but I'm not aggressive about it. I found out early on when I was young growing up, my Daddy was physically and verbally abusive, and I made up my mind that I would not allow no one else in this world to talk to me, or treat me that way ever again, and that I wouldn't treat anyone else like that either. I am so careful with my now, 12 year old daughter that I don't treat her like that. And I tell her everyday, a million times a day, that I love her and how proud I am of her, which is something I never heard from my mama or daddy. My childhood could have made me a real bitch but I chose to use that experience differently, simple because I remember how bad and worthless it made me feel. I think women (or men) that are real 'bitches' have a history that has made them that way to a certain degree. Maybe they don't know any other way to behave???
Sorry so long, had to vent!!
Goldilox
P.S. I wander if Dr. Phil ever reads these message boards?? : )
(Original Air Date: 02/20/06) Meet three women who each admit to being a "bitch" and proud of it! Kristine, Teresa and Lois all say their demanding bitchiness gets them what they want when they want it. But Dr. Phil challenges their thinking. Is it really working for them? What is behind their bitchy bias, and would their lives change for the better with an attitude adjustment? Share your thoughts, join the discussion.
