Quote From: jetapacheI rarely watch Dr. Phil, not really my cup of tea but since today is a holiday and I was watching TV and the show cam on, it hit a nerve with me so I watched it.
I was married to a royal bitch similar to the second guest with the husband. I was married to a woman similar to her for just over a year.
When dating she was very nice and I loved her very much, she was the queen of my dreams, so I proposed to her and we got married.
Right after our marriage things started to change, a month after we were married she got pregnant.
She would bitch, nag, insult me and throw tantrums, like the second guest to get what she wanted, at first I gave in just to shut her up, try to make her happy and thought it was because she was pregnant .
This abusive behavior contnued, it didnt take long for her 10year old daughter to start treating me disrespectful and try to use the same manupulative tactics with me.
My Ex wifes behavior got worse and worse, so did the step daughters, the step daughters behavior got so out of control that she almost got kicked out of school.
I was so happy to go to work just to get away from them both, the wife would call all day long at work nagging and bitching, then when I got hope it continued.
Sometimes the wife was very nice and loving, usually when she got what she wanted.
After the birth things really got bad, in the hospital with the baby she bitched and started screaming in the hospital room at 2 am so I left.
When we got home she became worse, lots of people especially women said that its post partum and I bought into it thinking that it was temporary.
about four months of things becoming worse and not better I started getting fed up with it and began to think is this worth it, I wanted to make the family work but under these conditions I knew it wouldnt ever work out.
She threatened me over and over things like she would take the baby and I would never see my daughter again, her dad is this powerful guy and other crap to try to intimidate me.
I guess she confused being nice for being weak and that she could manupulate me, but I was ready to go.
Day after day she nagged me so much over something stupid and I told her we need to split, she could move in with her parents I would help her get back on her feet and we could split custody of our daughter.
She said she would take the baby overseas and I would never see her again, I responded over my dead body.
A week later she forced the baby on me and would not let me go anywhere, I wanted to take my 4 month old newborn out to the bookstore and some lunch.
She flat out refused, while I was taking the baby and getting her ready she physically attacked me with the baby in my arms, she beat the crap out of me, while she was punching me hitting me and jumping on my back I managed to get her off of me, I never laid a hand on her.
The police came and automaticly took her side they did not care that I was beaten with the baby in my arm, I had several inuries my shirt was ripped my glasses busted and all she had was a little tiny scrape on the knees.
I was forced out of my own house and couldnt come home, all of a sudden I was homeless, she and her lawyer denied me visitiations of my baby for over 5 months, stole all of my stuff trashed it and gave it all away to her friends, moved her friends into my house, refused to give me my things and charged up major bills.
I switched lawyers and things started to change, we are still fighting over the custody issues and she is still a nasty person (BITCH) to me.
She thought she could break me and use the system against me to make me submit.
Like I said she took advantage confusing kindness for weakness, but I am not a weak person.
The love for my child is stronger then anything, that is why I am still standing and fighting for my rights.
Unlike most guys that would give up or submit to the system, I will never give up because of the love of my child.
She still continues to try to make me submit to her but it doesnt work.
All I can say is being a bitch and being like the second guest is detrimental to any relationship and it will lead into only misery and that the bitch will become the real loser.
I am convinced that the second guest and a woman like that who throws things and demeans her husband has probably commited domestic violence against him, and because the system is so distorted the man is probably afraid because of the social bias that men never get beaten or have domestic violence commited on them.
I know there are alot of men who commit violence against women, I know first hand that women do commit domestic violence against men, but violence against men is not taken seriously and is very under reported.
There is no excuse for any type of Domestic Violence whether its a man beating a woman or a woma beating a man.
The only thing I can say is that a bitches like the guests on the show are very dangerous, not only to their husband, their family and themself.
Bitches like them, if they dont change their attitude and negative behavior will only live a miserable life and like all three of the guests they will pollute other people, especially ones they are supposed to love with misery and will eventully be left either by the husband leaving them or dying of a heart attack, and they will die alone unloved and miserable.
Dr. Phil is right, there is a big difference from being confident and being a bitch to make up for ones insecurity.
Here are some helpful and informative links for people to check out
http://domesticabusehelpline.org/Home.asp
http://www.ifeminists.net/index.php
http://www.ifeminists.net/introduction/editorials/index.html
http://www.ifeminists.net/introduction/editorials/2006/0104sacks.html
http://www.dvmen.org/dv-34.htm#pgfId-1353321
Your story is so sad. I've seen it all too many times too. Too often have I seen a male victim kicked out of the house. Leaving a child with an abuser is child-abuse. Unfortunately police believe in child abuse in these cases.
For some reason these days most people support a woman's right to be as abusive as she wants to be. Far too many women deeply believe in their right to be an abuser. Dr. Phil, sadly, takes a feminist stand which puts too much burden on the male victim and not nearly enough on the female abuser. This is a problem I've had with Dr. Phil since I first saw him on Oprah.
I pray you get your daughter away from the mother even as I realize the odds are strongly against it.
We live in a society which supports child abuse in order to support a woman's right to abuse any man. That is the heart and soul of the matter.
(Original Air Date: 02/20/06) Meet three women who each admit to being a "bitch" and proud of it! Kristine, Teresa and Lois all say their demanding bitchiness gets them what they want when they want it. But Dr. Phil challenges their thinking. Is it really working for them? What is behind their bitchy bias, and would their lives change for the better with an attitude adjustment? Share your thoughts, join the discussion.
