It appeared to me on this show and the previous one that Grant needs to take the "partnership" test. I have given this test to many men that have the same 1950 mindset that Grant does about how a wife is suppose to be as a partner in the marriage. Most of the men tested, do not like the results!
I think Grant also needs to rent the movie, "Pleasantville" and watch the ending. This is where your marriage is going. And my question to Grant is this, "WHAT DO YOU THINK YOU ARE TEACHING YOUR CHILDREN??" Do you think you are being a good role model for them. I surely would NOT want one of your sons to date anyone female I know. I would not want the years of rigidity, controlfreakoid, and my way or the highway atttitude to be around them. I truly understand that you being the person who works outside the home and bringing home the $$$ should at the least expect a clean house, and dinner on the table. What you are NOT entitled to expect ....is military conformity for EVERYTHING in the entire household to be done!
Do you also expect Kelly to make all of the doctor, dental, and hair appts? Do you want her to drive herself and all of the children to these appts? Do you expect her to plan, buy presents for the children, your family for Birthdays and Christmas? Do you expect her to decorate the house for holidays? Write out and send out Christmas cards? I know you stated you expect her to do general maintenance on major and small appliances and keep the cars clean inside and out. Is she also to do oil changes and spark plugs changes on the cars, lawn mower, and edger? Is she also to clean out the gutters? Plant flowers? Drop off the drycleaning and pick it up. Go to the post office if necessary. Make appts for your own personal hygiene needs? Where exactly does the list EVER end??? As the children get older even more duties will be presented for her to do...right???
In other words, Grant, she does it ALL, and all you do is go to work for 10 hours a day.....right??? As my husband and I of 33 years watched the show, we just kept saying....HE JUST does NOT get it...STILL!!! My husband said he knows men just like you at GE that are engineers......all book smart near genius, but total numbskull with everyday life. PLEASE DONT LET YOUR SONS GROW UP to be like you! And the wedding band....it was given to you in a religious ceremony....and was stated......WEAR THIS AS AN OUTWARD SIGN THAT THERE IS NO BEGINNING AND NO END to our love and committment to each other for eternity! Now, I bet if you had a signed contract for something at work, you would want the contract to be HONORED, not one party just holding their part of the contract, RIGHT???? Really think about what you are doing to your wife. I will predict if things dont change, she will eventually LEAVE you!!! Seen it happen too many other times. GET ON BOARD!!!
Dr. Phil revisits the topic of what makes a good wife. Grant and Kelly first appeared on the show because Grant expected his wife to live up to his demanding standards. He wanted a cleaner house, better meals and a sexier spouse. After seven years, his constant criticism and disappointment had her ready to throw in the towel on trying to become the "perfect wife." Dr. Phil’s first talk with Grant and Kelly caused quite a stir as thousands of viewers wrote in choosing sides. How are Grant and Kelly now? Has Grant abandoned his critical ways and his expectation of having a Stepford wife? And why is he no longer wearing his wedding ring? Talk about the show here.
