I want to start off by saying that Kelly needs to be commended. She is obviously a devoted mother and wife to her "husband", Grant. When Dr. Phil had Grant and Kelly on the first time, I thought that he was the biggest S.O.B. I had ever seen. I am a stay at home mom of three kids, ages 13, 5, and 3. Nobody would understand what a day in the life of a stay at home mom was like, unless it was another stay at home mom or dad. It's a hard job. Not only are we a mom, but we are the maid, cook, nurse (or as my kids say, doctor), personal drivers, teacher, referee, and most importantly, we are the person that is there 24/7 for our kids and our significant others. Sometimes our job is a thankless one. My husband tells me all the time how much he appreciates what I do. I know that he couldn't do it, and he does too. I leave for a couple hours and when I return, the house looks like a tornado hit it. They have no idea that the dishes are washable and that we have a hamper for dirty clothes. I guess I call that job security. I think that Kelly should pull a switcheroo on Grant. Let Her "grade" his meals and then when he's done with a day of running after the kids, cleaning the house, debating over window treatments, scrubbing toilets and bathtubs, arranging furniture and trying to find the perfect french maid outfit, that's when she should demand sex. That's what marriage is to Grant, isn't it? I thought marriage was this wonderful thing. The union that is so unbelievably great, that it compliments each of you and makes you feel the most important person to your husband/wife. My husband tells me everyday how beautiful I am. Even though I don't feel like it, and I complain of my "baby fat", he tells me I have a reason for that and they are sitting in the other room, he tells me he loves me anyway. He is, to me, the ideal husband. Maybe Grant should go for husband classes, or just Man classes, to teach him how to be a man. A man loves his wife. He supports his wife. He tells his wife how beautiful she is. A man helps his wife with the kids, the house, the supper. A man sits down and has a tea party with his daughter. A man tells his wife to sit down and relax so he can finish putting dishes away. Grant may provide the income for "his" family, but that is all that he provides. He should be ashamed of the way he treats his wife. Kelly may love him, but I don't think that he will ever get to the point where he will accept the house for not being just so and the dinners being thrown together. She is a beautiful woman that has been so obviously beaten down by Grant. She should think more of herself and the kids and give Grant time to think, all alone. Let him enjoy his own company and see how that works out for him. Good Luck Kelly!!
Dr. Phil revisits the topic of what makes a good wife. Grant and Kelly first appeared on the show because Grant expected his wife to live up to his demanding standards. He wanted a cleaner house, better meals and a sexier spouse. After seven years, his constant criticism and disappointment had her ready to throw in the towel on trying to become the "perfect wife." Dr. Phil’s first talk with Grant and Kelly caused quite a stir as thousands of viewers wrote in choosing sides. How are Grant and Kelly now? Has Grant abandoned his critical ways and his expectation of having a Stepford wife? And why is he no longer wearing his wedding ring? Talk about the show here.
